I have been with my boyfriend about 2 years. He says he loves me and wants to have a baby with me and all these wonderful thing. He's 28 and Im 22. He has no kids and I have 2. But I go though he phone bill and check his voice mail often and have found out that he talk to other girls and possiable have sex with them. He of course denies it. But why would a guy do this.
2006-09-20 07:09:26 · 32 answers · asked by bena042000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been reading the answers and I just want to add that the reason I check his messages and bills is because of my past relationship which was very bad. He has never given me a reason to check his stuff but I found things that I didnt like once I did. Another reason I check his stuff is because of the ghetto fab life he lives that bitches stay on his jock
2006-09-20 07:26:12 · update #1
he wants his cake and eat it to.do not have another child not with this man.
2006-09-20 07:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously wants to keep the "door open" for the future if you break up, by talking to other girls so often. If you really must, then you can catch him in the act on the phone or something, either by intent or acting like you didn't know. If its an innocent conversation... then dont worry about it. Never jump to conclusions. If he says he wants to be with you, hope to all hell he is serious. Never keep yourself from the truth if it is right there.. but what you can do is think about this: are you as good without him as you are with him? also consitter your kids. How does he treat them? Does he treat him like his own? He should. Has your boyfriend talked about marriage? it's a big decision to just sit and wait, or do something.. but 2 years is a while, and it's about time to do something. Are you snooping in the bills or just saw the bill, and "wow... who is this?" Cos, you shouldn't snoop, either. It shows that YOU don't trust HIM.
2006-09-20 07:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to go through the phone bill and check his voice mail-he has given you reason already to not trust him. Believe me, I had a child after the first 2 years with my ex and ended up sticking it out for another 8 years just because of our son and it was living HELL. He was doing the same thing, girls calling, phone numbers and his excuse "She's just a friend". I hate to man bash--but that is the first sign--I am finally not with him anymore and guess what--One of the girls I questioned him about, he is now married to her and he still tries to hook up with me. I would say to you, don't have a child with him right now. Wait! And yes he will deny it until he dies. That's one of the men's CODE rules--deny, deny, deny and they keep on doing it.
2006-09-20 07:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by dayna64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving you has nothing to do with him not being faithful. If you can't trust him, don't bring a baby into the mess. Since you are only 22 with 2 kids already you should not be in a hurry to have more just because he wants a baby. You have plenty of time.
2006-09-20 07:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, if you are snooping then you have big trust issues with him to start with. Instinct is usually right. Second if you actually hear voice mails and know that he is talking to other woman then why are you still with him?
Leave, he can say all he wants, he is not showing you. Actions speak much louder than words.
If you have a child with him and he is off with other woman, what are you going to do then? You will have 3 children who will be seeing you upset and angry. That is not good for them.
And why would he do it? If you told him you know, and he denies it and you still believe him, then of course he is going to walk all over you. Get rid of him now! I bet you will see how he comes running back. If he loves you like he says he does.
2006-09-20 07:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he gets away with it!
If your having doubts about him and your looking thru his phone because you don't trust him, then why be with him???
If he is cheating on you then no I really don't think he loves you!
If he is NOT cheating on you need to figure out why you don't trust him. And if it's something he did in the past you have two options, get over it and forgive or don't and find someone you can trust and wouldn't put these kind of thoughts in your head!
Your young, move on. Why have a baby with him? So you can be a single mother of three!!! Think about that!
2006-09-20 07:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! You are way too convenient. You have been together for 2 years? Has he proposed marriage? Why would you want to have another child with a man who plays around with others online and who knows where else. He is also playing around with your mind. Don't you want a man who is in love with you and only you??? If he doesn't want to make your relationship legal and commit to you and only you then move on. There are so many wonderful men out there....go find one and let this one go.
2006-09-20 07:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by bluemustang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you go through the phone bills and check his voice mail? obviously you were suspicious of him. so, the confirmation you got wasn't enough for you, you had to ask strangers? i think you just want someone to tell you what you want to hear, that he loves you it's all innocent, blah blah blah....................
sorry girl, this stranger is telling you he doesn't love you, at least not in the way he should. he just loves the fact that you can't face the truth and are there for him when he's done with the other girls. do yourself and the kids a favour and et rid of him.
2006-09-20 07:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by *JC* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear...if you are having doubts about this guy...having a baby with him will only make things worse for both of you...you are checking his phone bill, sorry but it seems that there is no trust here from you...if you stay with him, stay with him, but don't bring another child into the world unless you are sure you can trust him.
2006-09-20 07:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the second trust is broken you will never be able to go back to the way things were. Love is absolute trust with no doubts. If you think he is cheating or not your mind will never be able to trust him again. Get out before it gets ugly. Most importantly Your kids need some one they can trust. don't let them suffer threw an unhappy relationship.
2006-09-20 07:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have the proof then leave him know! because whats going to happen is that youre going to have a baby with him then youll be stuck! didnt you learn from the 2 you already have? im not trying to be mean but its true, its happening to me! ive been with my hub for 6 years, we have a 2 year old, and im 32 weeks prego, and he cheated on me about a month ago! before we had our son i used to find the same evidence and was goin to leave him,but i didnt! look at me know im all stressed out!dont get me wrong i love my kids to death nut i wished i would of thought things out.good luck
2006-09-20 07:14:56 · answer #11 · answered by junkinmytrunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋