Ive been dating a younger guy for a short period of time. He's starting to become serious in the relationship and I just got out of a horrible break up with an ex fiance. He's been there for me and he's been mentioning moving in together and starting a family. His age does bother me but Im moving away from that. Should I forward this relationship or should i dump him and move on with my life? He acts his age sometimes and it bothers me but there are times when you cant tell hes 2 yrs younger than me.
2006-09-20 06:49:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are feeling the way you say you are about him then I think you already know what you want to do....
Sounds like you'd like to go on with your life, so do it before more times goes by and before someone gets hurt, you know that someone isn't going to be you.... He may just be trying to make you feel secure and if he really feels sincere about moving in and getting married then he'll be hurt anyway but you should break things off with him if that's what you want to do, before his feelings get even stronger for you...
You are already irritated by him at times and his age bothers you not that it should but it does and if you can't get over either of those things and you know your feelings aren't going to change then move on.... You two can still be friends...
2006-09-20 07:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take it slowly, since you aren't sure... there is no reason you HAVE to get that serious right away right?
Tell him you are more than flatted that he wishes these things for the two of you, and based only on your past relationship you don't want to do anything ruin this one in any way... if he realizes you are taking it slowly because you want it to work, he may be more understanding.
Having just come from a serious relationship, I don't think it is fair to any of you to settle right down and especially start a family, and if he doesn't understand that, then it might be wise to think about moving on... as you need a man that will respect and understand your wishes =)
Best of luck
2006-09-20 13:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie 2 years is not that far apart..It kind of sounds like u know what to do. What if u say to him that u need some time by your self just a couple of days, and c how u feel ...if u miss him then cool. if u still r not sure .then take some more days,,This is your life. and it was what will make u happy. u cant just be in it with him because he was there for u when u needed someone there. Which was very nice of him,,, but u need to take a time out ,,and maybe u will fine someone that is better 4 u, u don't have to jump into anything,,,good luck
2006-09-20 14:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like time to get rid of your rebound man. There is nothing wrong with that the sooner you do it the better though he is getting attached and this will hurt him but all too often we girls want to spare their feelings so we take it easy beat around the bush and drag it out for far too long. Rebound men are necessary they just are it's how we move on but a relationship can't be forced and the sooner you explain this to him the easier it will be. Good luck and be brutaly honest He will thank you for it in the long run. A hit only hurts for a second but the anticipation of the blow can keep you in agony permanatly.
2006-09-20 13:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't mean anything, specially 2 yrs apart in age. You do not feel *in love* with this person or you wouldn't get *bothered* by anything at this point in your *early* relationship. I say do not take this to the next level, do not move in and start a family with this guy......... keep it the way it is, i have a feeling you won't be with him much longer. Blessed be...........
2006-09-20 13:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years younger!thats not a lot,although in some situations it could seem alot. its all up to how ur true feelings 4 him r,if been w/him makes u feel happy n u feel ok,n the only thing bothering u is the age,ur just woring 2 much 4 nothing,BUT if is not that n u thing is something else thatn the age,think twice,'cause as young he might b hes a person n has feelings.
2006-09-20 14:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you need to have a sit down with him. Tell him you are in no hurry. Let him know how you really feel. If he sits threw it and really listens to you. You might want to keep him around as long as he is willing to slow his jests down a little. Other wise if he blows it off let him go and fly free for a bit. Oh and about his age 18 25 75 guys will never act their age. Hope this helps.
2006-09-20 13:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit more mature than you, whatever his age. When you got together with him was it just for sex? You are asking for opinions and here is mine........ Have sex with the man and don't worry about the relationship, he will find someone else who wants to have a family and a life with him. Then you can come back and ask what to do when you have been dumped by him...
Do unto others as you would have them do to you, it's a good rule to live by, saves lot of pain and heartbreak....
2006-09-20 13:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by rascal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know yourself first. Just getting out of one relationship and jumping into another one is not wise. Trust me on this. :)
2 years age diff is nothing, so drop that part as an excuse to break up with him.
You guys need to slow down. Give it at least a year before you jump into anything.
Good luck
2006-09-20 14:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by Etain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is absolutely NOTHING when it comes to age difference. I think you already answered your own question. You've already mentioned him being there for you plus from the way you've describe him he sounds very mature for the plans he's made.
My wife is 4 years younger and that absolutely does not bother me. AGE is only a number.
2006-09-20 13:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by kimchee_boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋