One is 16 and dominating; the other is 14, big(as in weight) and won't go on school bus due to her feeling that folk is talking about her; she hates ROTC, and I worry about her finishing high school at this rate. The 16 y/o likes to bully the 14 y/o although I feel that the 14 y/o could squash her like a bug one good time if she wants. What to do??
2006-09-20 06:28:27 · 7 answers · asked by savvyladydiamond 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dad had them and gave to me; he's an hour away, and I plan to talk to him.
2006-09-20 06:34:39 · update #1
Just for the record, from DAY ONE, I have preached, overpreached and their father has too about my eldest being a bully; it's just not going where it need to go to.
2006-09-20 08:34:23 · update #2
You are the parent and you need to establish some rules. Start with the older child. No more bullying. If she continues she will be placed on restriction -- stay home, no phone calls, no computer, etc. Take away whatever she likes. The younger daughter is more of a problem. Under no circumstance can she stay home from school. She must go. You could get into trouble for not making sure she goes. Her weight is something you must address now. Take her to a Dr. and have him put her on a safe diet. Buy no junk or snack food. It is up to you to put healthy food on the table and have nothing else around to tempt her. Have fruit and carrot and celery sticks for snack, not candy or chips. Mom, you have to take control of this situation or it will just get worse.
2006-09-20 06:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello growing up also not being the perfect skinny person I know how she feels. I still am not that person but you can't let other people get to you. Offer her help in losing weight maybe dieting and talk to the 16 year old and see if she knows how she is making her sister feel and that it's not nice to be so mean to her. Growing up overweight is no fun especially when you're a teenager kids can be so cruel these days. I'm 22 and have a 6 month son and 5 yr old step daughter and I worry about weight with my kids so I know how it is but just try the diet or cutting out certain things maybe even try it as a family so she doesnt feel like she is missing anything when she sees the whole family is eating healthier. I hope this helps. And good luck.
2006-09-20 06:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Amy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be teaching your daughters to love each other and not belittle each other. Something that should have started in the begining! Also you should be teaching your daughter that if she has something about herself she doesn't like, she should do something about it! Not hide! Not going on the bus won't stop people from talking about her. Give her some diets to go on, make her go outside and get exercise! Your JOB is being a Mother! That includes TEACHING YOUR KIDS, not just letting them do what they want. GET THAT GIRL BACK ON THE BUS!!!
2006-09-20 06:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer may well be no. What modifications in simple terms because of the fact they are married? he will nevertheless be deployed. they could desire to attend until eventually she is a minimum of 18 if no longer older. there is not any way a sixteen 365 days old can take care of that form of duty and she or he shouldn't ought to. If she loves him and he loves her, this could not be a super deal. enable them to be "engaged" yet do no longer enable them to get married.
2016-10-15 05:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How were they raised? I mean, bullying is not good. Have cosequences for them, put your foot down, your the parent!
2006-09-20 06:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is their dad?
2006-09-20 06:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIMBO said it
2006-09-20 06:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋