My sister and I have always been fighting since we were little. She used to do and say horrible things to me whenever she didn't get her way. I was always told I had to forgive her and not fight back because I was her older sister. Now that we've grown up things still haven't changed. She's only nice to me when she wants something from me. We're just so different, I'm more reserved and quiet I like spending time with myself but she's out going and has many friends. She thinks that I'm "boring".
I have always been a bit of a good girl. I'm really close to my dad but it's not like that between him and my sister and she kinda thinks it's because of me. I feel like she hates me or something she likes to say hurtful things to me. She always says that she's more attractive than me, I already know that and I really don't need her to keep reminding me. She acts all surprised when she finds out somebody actually likes me.
Am I too sensitive or my sister's just a b i t c h?
2006-09-20 06:25:51 · 12 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well you already know that your sister is very jealous of the relationship you have with your father. The reason she aims low is because that’s the only way to make herself feel better. You have shown her signs of weakness when you let it get to you.
Have you tried ignoring her when she comes to you for help, especially when she changes her *attitude* and becomes the nice sister?
I think its time you make her feel the way she makes you feel. Ignore her. I mean completely. If she asks you why just tell her you have no time for people like her in your life, and walk away. She wants to make you feel like her life is so much better than yours, and she is the better sister because of looks or whatever the reason. The truth is her life isn’t better because, she is missing the thing she craves the most which is the affection from your dad.
If you give into her she will continue doing it. You don’t have to retaliate just ignore her and involve yourself in the things that make you happy. Whatever that may be.
Not only is she going to miss the love of her father but also the love from her sister.
It will get to her. She’s obviously not made out of ice. Because she is showing her true feelings by acting out.
Remember there is a reason why she likes to put you down, because you have something she wants dearly.
Good Luck.
2006-09-20 06:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a bit of a witch yes. However from the point of view of the ounger cuter sister who is more outgoing and thinks my sister is boring and always got her way with my father. No she doesn't hate you. I have never been jealouse of my sister over her relationship with our parents if anything else she wishes you two could be closer. It took many years for me and my sister to become the best friends we are but simply it is a case of we both needed to grow up and see that we are diffrent but we share a bond no one else will ever have with us and that is sister hood. If she can't accept who you are as a person then just don't bother going to her with things for a bit she'll miss you and hope one day to be able to be there. Also it could be she is wanting to be more like you deep down
2006-09-20 06:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're too sensitive and she really is a *****. She's obviously jealous of something and you suggesting your close relationship with your dad might just be it. Ignore her. A person who puts you down for no reason, just to spite you deserves to be ignored, even if she's your sister.
Either that or tell her. Stand up for yourself, don't let her walk all over you. She probably surrounds herself with so many people because she can't stand her own company...Oh and btw, you don't need to forgive and forget anymore since she's 'grown up' now.
2006-09-20 06:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a witch. She is selfish. Many people just love to put others down. It makes them feel better about themselves. There is really nothing the rest of us can do about it. I did tell one person that I was unable to take the putdowns anymore, at this time in my life (I was going through a hard time). It really worked, she was mature enough to straighten up around me.
Good luck
2006-09-20 06:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a b i t c h. Ignore her completely, if she thinks she more attractive and has to tell you that she is majorly insecure. The only people that do the things she is doing actually have no life. I think she is jealous of you, forget her till she can grow up!!!!
2006-09-20 06:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit of both.
Your sister's compulsion to "put you down" stems form her insecurity about her place in the family. She's reacting with anger to the pain of feeling that your father prefers you to her.
The best way to deal with someone like your sister is to be pleasant and polite with her, but not go out of your way to be of assistance to her. Whe she matures, she may come to appreciate and accept you.
2006-09-20 08:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by m.allen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like a bit of both( sensitive and b i t c h sister) you need to tell her to leave you the f u c k alone and also when she does say things, say stuff right back at her
2006-09-20 06:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, i have the same exact problem but in mine, i'm the little sister. on behalf of your little sister it just feels like we are never good enough or can live up to your standards. we say things without thinking. we don't want to hurt you but we don't know what else to do. sorry.
2006-09-20 06:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by [insert something clever here] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens
2017-01-25 22:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by tenzin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her and then don't go around her... She has issues and if you keep it up you will have issues if it's not already to late...
2006-09-20 06:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by BECB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋