Lost my virginity to a loser,how do i get over him?

Question

He is my first love and we've been together for two years now. My family all warned me about him but i was in love and didnt want to listen. Now i have seen his true colors and can see what he's really like. I know the right thing would be to walk away but we have been through so much together and dont know if i can. Depression is already setting in because it seems like he's bored of me now. Things were wonderful when we first started going out now it's like everything has changed.

Answer 1

Sorry to hear that things aren't going as you would like.

I know how hard it can be to think that something that was once really special might never be the same or as how you want it.

Perhaps talking to your boyfriend about how you have been feeling of late could help. If talking is difficult, you could try spending a few days or even week or so away from him - see if he contacts you. He might miss you and start acting the guy you saw when you got with him.

If things are still the same or worse after tring this, I think there may be little or no future for your relationship.

But if you are not happy in it, it could be a good thing and an experience you can take with you in life and use again. Keep strong.

If you're feeling down, try to see some friends and go out nights out - enjoy yourself. You are someone who has a lot of love and care to give and hopefully you will meet someone who can share it with you - if you're boyfriend is not the one.

Smile when you're feeling down. A big grin. It is surprising how much it can help. Good luck! ;-)

Max x

Answer 2

i hate admiting it but families are most the time right.especailly about those who u date, we can get so blinded by love that we ignore those we love and the advice they'll give, family always want whats best for u, but we all make mistakes, and u can see this as a learning experience than beating urself up about it. so when u get into new relationships u'll know what to do and not to do. things are always great at first in a relationship, its something new and fresh and different. but it's however much a person wants to commit with u is most important at the end of the day. talk to him and find out how he really feels and tell him how you feel. best way to keep a healthy relationship is being honest. open and great communication
hope this helps :-)

Answer 3

You have had lots of good advice from people here.

First things first - end it. In a strange way it will make you feel better for walking away rather then being dumped (oh the joy of hindsight!) and then sort out what YOU want to do with your life.

You are young and attractive and have nothing to be depressed about. Yes, we all make mistakes but the wonderful thing is that eventually we do learn from them - it took me about 4 attempts to get it sort of right.

He might of been your first lover but please for your own sake, make sure that he is not your last. Friendship, trust and having someone who makes you feel good about yourself are the most important things in any relationship and you will find someone who has those qualities. Not now perhaps, but it will happen.

Answer 4

Move on sweetheart, it hurts for a while, then the right person comes along. The past means bugger all, the futures more important. Dont drag your self along through this crap because you FEEL you need to.
Been there done that. back fired on me too, but you family and friends will help. To be honest youll never get that first time romance feeling back. Hold your head up high your free!!!

Answer 5

"The right thing would be to walk away" Hey, those are YOUR words! That is the first step in getting over him. Then continue walking One Step At A Time.

Trust me, we have all gone thru it and when you have taken enough steps, the world will look brighter and you will be glad for listening to your inner wisdom.

Namaste.

Answer 6

Hi Hun

Try not to worry too much about it, its not something that you can change. I was young when I lost mine and am not proud and I didnt loose it to someone who was really special looking back.

But you can't change it and its all an experience. Just try not to worry about it too much and focus on looking forward. You're not alone. You are lucky that you have family who support you, have you any close friends that you can speak to? who may have had similar experiences?

Have you spoken to your boyfriend about how your feeling? Maybe try and get your feelings accross and express how you're feeling if you feel that you have something worth holding onto.

Good luck hun x

Answer 7

I am sorry but i think ur bf now he wants this sexual variety .Now stop being depressed but i also dont know why these boys act like this and they dont open up but they just show it by actions.Try to forget about everything and focus on ur future becoz these guys they come and go but if he is really urs u shall see.

Answer 8

Girl there are more fish in the sea he was just one guy maybe yeah hes your first love but that doesn't mean u won't find someone else hes a loser and later he will regret what he lost.

Answer 9

my advice would be cry your eyes out for as long as it takes to clear them so that before you go into your next relationship its not a rebound one which will mean meeting another loser its ok to feel upset and have regrets because 90% of the time people lose their virginity with losers and end up regretting for a very long time, oh yeah dont date anyone for awhile try to take time out to find yourself again and get over him cos you deserve better and good guys do exist its just that they all seem to be taken but you will find love again trust me, i did
GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 10

well ive been though this before chick when you think you found the perfect love then all of a sudden he crushes your heart to pieces. dont worrie we are all going to go through this some time in our lives. But it only makes us stronger okay.you will get through this dont worrie.