I've been casually dating a guy for about 2 1/2 months, we've recently decided to be 'exclusive'. Well the other day I was running by his place to borrow a DVD and a male friend came with me. The guy I was seeing got very jealous wondering who he was, why we were hanging out ect.. and later told me that he had 'bad vibes from him' - I knew/know the guy i'm with has a jealous streak and it doesn't bother me.
Well anyways when I came by to see him that night he was more affectionate and sweet.. not much more sweet but def. more affectionate.
Do you all think this is because he got afraid for a moment that I could leave or just because he wanted to prove that he was better than my friend...
Seems odd to me.
Good or bad sign.
2006-09-20 06:19:54 · 21 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we spoke about me having male friends and he just asked that if i'm hanging out with them when i come to see him to warn him because he was blindsided.
2006-09-20 06:27:46 · update #1
I wasn't TRYING to make him jealous. My friend was just with me, i didn't even think about it when I was heading over there. Didn't think he'd get jealous of a friend he's heard about (never met though)
2006-09-20 06:29:08 · update #2
It's not a bad thing, but don't try to make him jealous in order to be treated the way you want. Eventually, he will tire of it and become meaner instead of sweeter.
You need to explain to your boyfriend that you have male friends that you will continue to socialize with even though you're dating him. See how he takes that, and it will answer whether or not you should stay together.
2006-09-20 06:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy above who stated that relationships aren't a game is 100% correct. To make a guy jealous on purpose is asinine. If it was me, I wouldn't put up with it.
You notice how everyone who answered that jealousy is a good thing was a woman? You don't understand, as a man, when another guy is getting too close to your women it's an issue of respect. I know a lot of women aren't territorial like that, but a good portion of the time when we make an issue about another guy it's not that we don't trust you, it's that you're putting us in an awkward position because we feel disrespected by the other guy trying to "make time" with our girlfriend. If it keeps happening, then you put a lot of pressure on the guy to threaten the other man to back off - and if you're doing this as a game, you're putting him through a lot of stress for no reason.
2006-09-20 13:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by hellfirsthand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agree to see someone exclusive, then mean it.
You both agree to give up socializing with your friends of the opposite sex without the other present.
Jealous?
Yes, he is entitled to some, but may feel a little embarrassed because he is trying to trust you and wonders if he can in the future.
If he is the one, then do not push your luck by loosing him by being seen alone with someone of the opposite sex.
2006-09-20 13:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that yes some jealousy can help the relationship so long as it doesn't get controlling. Just not spending extreme amounts of time together can also help. It's never bad for him to know that more men than him want you
2006-09-20 13:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure......If it was me and I saw my gf/woman/significant other hanging out with another guy or chatting or sharing a laugh would only make me appreciate the fact I have someone desirable and attracts others not only by her looks but by her personality...
Therefore it means I have a real keeper! Then I would quietly find the address of these guys that have hung around with her and have them killed one by one ...wait that was suppose to remain inside my head! Nevermind!
2006-09-20 13:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a waste of your time. If my girl was trying to make me jealous I would take it the wrong way by her being unfaithful and I wouldn't waste a second to kick her to the curb. Relationships aren't a game and people who think differently shouldn't be in them.
2006-09-20 13:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by roshambo76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly healthy and yes, a little jealousy is totally fine. It makes him realize what he's got and that he can lose it at any time. Now, if he became enraged and took it too far, then you'd have a problem, but what you've experienced is totally fine!
2006-09-20 13:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good possibility he wanted to really be his best for you so that you wouldn't get any ideas of running off with this other guy that you showed up with.
In other words, it's a good sign that he wants you that bad to fight harder to keep you :)
2006-09-20 13:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
badbadbad
jealousy is bad.
be considerate of how he might feel about you coming over with someone he's never even heard of. don't flaunt it all around. He should be understanding that girls have guy friends and they can just be friends. if he doesn't get it then he just sucks.
2006-09-20 13:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by [insert something clever here] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be like dogs, if you see him peeing in the corners to mark his territory I think you know what's going on.
Jealousy can bite you hard, if he's a controlling jealous guy, walk away. On the other hand, now you KNOW he likes you.
-Rob
2006-09-20 13:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋