how do I get my 3 1/2 yr.old son to listen?

Answer 1

Make sure that he knows that your boss. And let me add that no child is going to listen to their parents all the time. My son is almost three and I think that he picks his battles! Sometimes he is an angel and listens to me and other times he is a little brat!

Answer 2

Hey. I have a 5 year old son. Who never listened to a word i said. But there are plenty of tricks that you can do, such as rewarding him for good behavior. Try giving him time-out when he acts up and take a reward away. If that doesnt work then start with bigger punishments. With my son he loves to play outside, especially on the four-wheeler. So when he still did not want to listen, i would take the four-wheeler away. Then i would give him a certain amount of time that he had to spend in his room. He would then have to tell me what he did wrong. Not in full detail, i mean he was only three, but he would have to tell me in his words what he did. Slowly afte a while he got more respect for me. And just remember that he is only 3 !/2 he will grow up. So, dont take it so personally. Just mak sure that you are showing him that you are the parent. And the most important thhing is do not baby him. this will not show him anything. He'll think that you did wrong not him. So, always stand your ground even when it hurts. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I know 30 1/2 year olds that don't listen. It's kind of an open question for strangers to answer, we have no idea what kind of relationship you have with your son, or what kind of parent you are. Are you passive? Aggressive? Does your son get spankings, or time outs? What is he not listening to? Are you telling him to take out the garbage and he refuses? Or does he just not stop when you say stop. If it's the garbage, good luck, I know many grown men who don't listen to that request, but if it's something simple like "Stop picking your nose, Johnny." or "Don't run out into the road, Johnny." Pick your battles. If you fight over everything neither one of you will be happy. So Johnny pcks his nose, it could be worse. But as we all know, Johnny can't run into the street, so, choose wisely. I don't think they have an owners manual on these short people yet, but I have four of them, and I can tell you what I do. I ask them, I tell them, then I make them. If by the time I get to the third and final option they are still not cooperating, I get off my duff and make them cooperate. You'd be surprised how effective this is. I am a strict parent though, and I demand obedience, not that I'm a Nazi mom or anything, but my children will mind me, and the oldest ones realized soon that if we just keep mom happy, we have a lot of fun. That being said, the youngest is 17 months old, and laughs in the face of danger. He finds it quite amusing that mommy's vein sticks out in her neck when he's making sand castles out of $40.00 body powder. To the point, nobody's perfect, and nobody listens all the time, don't have unrealistic expectations for your child, and you'll find you enjoy your time with them that much more. Yes, I lecture my children too. :)

Answer 4

First off all you have to show him your the boss. When he back talks sit him in the corner. When he wont listen tell him you will take something away from him such as a treat or toy or even tv time. Dont just threaten him with this follow through or he will never learn. And if all else fails give him a smack on the bottom and he should straighten right up

Answer 5

I have a 4 and 5 year old girls, and they are full of vinegar. I wish there was a sure fire way to help you but all kids respond to different things. I have to put one of my girls in time out, and the other I have to take away her favorite toys. also you can try to get a sticker chart. Make him earn stickers that add up to an ice cream or something he would like. Then tell him if he listens he can get one sticker closer to the treat. good luck.

Answer 6

Have you tried travelling forward in time to the year 2030??? That might work....my daughter is also 3 1/2 and ALL attitude. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Your bigger than him. Don't let him make all the rules or he will grow up to be a tyrant! Start now my insitituting punishments for every rule he breaks. Just take a way a cartoon or make him to to bed 1 hr early. Then because he is so young - make sure he understands why he is being punished. I.E. "do you know why you have to go to bed early?" ect. He will learn to listen to you and respect you. Start now while you sitll have control.

Answer 8

if you mean to obey and follow directives, think about incentives, almost like bribery... Be cautious how you word things, so it's not coming across as actual bribery, but instead as a way of laying down rules that are to be followed. -- not, "you can have a cookie if you eat your spaghetti", try "dessert is for after you clean your plate." or "when our toys are picked up, we will go outside to play" This lets the actual rule sink in, and the lil fella will come to learn that it takes responsibility and positive actions to get the fun stuff!

Answer 9

i found that my little boy is often finding out me and the nice and comfortable button is to be consistent with despite way you go with to show and self-discipline your baby. this what works for us even though it additionally ameliorations lots as he gets older. provide a warning and clarify why he isn't allowed to e.g. shout. If he does it back, clarify back that shouting isn't intense high quality and if he maintains there'll be outcomes. you are able to desire to eliminate a toy, positioned him on the naughty spot, much less television time... something quite it is life like. i generally prepare what i think of is suitable. so if he's throwing something, i say i will take the toy away and so on. if he nevertheless shouts, take despite action you threatened to take. it extremely is needed that despite you assert will happen, actual occurs. and then do no longer budge. in case you provide in, he has discovered no longer something yet once you stand by what you have stated, he will study from it. oh i forgot the considerable section. its so so considerable to compliment him whilst he's being sturdy. its too common to slip into nag mode and purely tell him off. whilst he does something intense high quality, say enjoying quitely together with his toys, enable him be attentive to which you're genuinly pleased with him. this seems to stability out all the "do no longer do this" and "provide up that" and stops you and him from feeling such as you're consistently nagging. now comes the perplexing bit. persist with it and prepare it on an usual basis. he could finally end up with maximum of his toys taken away and going to mattress early, yet in some days he will understand that no longer listening to you and holloring isn't well worth his mutually as. some days i purely provide in yet i finally end up procuring it quicker or later with whinging or my son finding out the bounds of the hot regulations...

Answer 10

consistancy...rules that are age appropriate, and consequences the same...can't expect a 3 1/2 yr old to do things like clean his toys up the way you would do it etc..but little things they can do, and just don't give in because your exhausted!!