The playground is right out of the playschool exit.
The parking lot is far from the entrance, so I can't take one to the car and then go for the other one.
We are not planning to move them to another school.
The playschool is for them to learn to socialize and share, so taking them out is not an option.
Yes, I have tried to make them understand we will go back the day after, but doesn't work!
Any suggestions?
Thanks!
2006-09-20 06:08:35 · 10 answers · asked by Mel 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is a parent-child cooperative school, so parents have to attend to a complete session of class every now and then and be a teacher's helper that day (so we are not just dropping them there like in a day care).
The football technique, with the two yelling and kicking "balls" under each arm, is what I have been using, and that's why I am asking for some solution more effective!
I tried the "walk away" technique, it worked with one of them, but the other one just get eager to go to play where I don't allow them!!!
2006-09-20 08:04:45 · update #1
I have a 2 year old who doesn't like to leave the playground either. I usually give her a five minute warning, before we are about to leave, rather than abruptly tell her we need to leave now. All else fails, I slip a small piece of candy in my pocket and tell her she can have it when we get in the car. Works all the time.
2006-09-20 07:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to pick them up and take them to the car. If you can't do it by yourself, see if you can get a teacher to help you or bring a wagon or a stroller. It will take a few tries, but they will soon get the message that they won't win this battle.
If this doesn't work for you, give them a few minutes to make the transition. It is really hard for some children to transition from one thing to the next. When you go to pick them up, tell them that they have 5 more minutes before it's time to go. You may also have them show you 1 thing before you go. "Let me see you (on the swing, in the sandbox, climb the play structure) and then we're going to go home." Before you take them to school that day, let them know that this is what you will be doing. If they have an expectation, the transition will be easier.
Empathize with them when they are calm. "I know you wanted to play longer. It was hard for you to leave. I can tell you like playschool a lot." They will learn to better express their feelings rather than throwing a tantrum.
Children often throw tantrums because they are feeling powerless. Help them to feel powerful by saying things like "You did that by yourself! Look how high you can jump! You used so many colors on you painting!" These phrases are great ways to help children feel powerful and great confidence builders. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-09-20 14:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 yr old tantrum throwers.. when push comes to shove, I scoop 'em up and tote 'em off, like the classic "football hold", one in each arm, around their waist, kicking and screaming all the way. I plop both in the car and wrestle one at a time into their seats. it's not usually fun, but it gets the job done and the point across that it's time to go, and mama's NOT waiting...
2006-09-20 13:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the parent make their butts get in the car. If you dont start to discipline them now then when they are a little older... omg you will have your hands full. I work at a child development center and I see this everyday. It makes it harder on the teacher too because if the kids wont listen to you what makes you think they listen to the teacher?
2006-09-20 13:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids don't need socialization at that age--they need mom and dad! What's the difference between socializing them now in preschool or next year in kindergarten? Preschool is a glorified daycare. As for the park thing--be the parent and just grab them both and put them in the car.
2006-09-20 13:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could you park a twin stroller outside the door and strap them into it for the walk to the car?
2006-09-20 20:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by ebosgramma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't rationalize with a toddler. They just don't get it. Pick them up and take them to the car. If you can't carry them both, take a stroller with you. No should be sufficient. Along with socialization, they need to learn they don't always get their way.
2006-09-20 13:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. When they realize they are being left behind they will stop the tantrums and get really scared. I used to do that to my nephew when he threw a tantrum in a toy store. Just keep walking and pay no attention to their antics.
2006-09-20 13:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you probably hate to be mean... in this case you have to! They are not going to understand right now. Just keep doing whatever your doing.
2006-09-20 13:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick them up and carry them to the car....as someone to help out. eventually they will learn that you will bring them back.
2006-09-20 14:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by his lil GA peach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋