I rescused her from her abusive husband 17 months ago
And she is still married to him. I offered to pay for the
divorce 8 months ago. She has always had a excuse
not to. I feel I showed her how to be free from her husband.
And treated her like a lady should. And now I believe I was
just a stepping stone in her new life. My exgirlfriend of 6 years
and 2 children had an affair on me so it makes me precautious.
So I want to be sure before I take action.
2006-09-20 06:07:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would get ahold of her cell phone bills and or her bank statements to look for suspicious activity.
You may have to think about where she is or was at particular times in the past month to start your investigation.
next time she goes out you might want to tail her from a distance.
good luck. The fact is a cheater will not admit to anything without presented with evidence.
2006-09-20 06:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Etain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is whats up. You have been burnt before and trust is going to be an issue to every relationship you have ever since you got hurt.It is simple, you have done everything for this girl and if you see you are not getting the same love back!i feel that you should walk because investigating on some one is time and energy consuming and in the end if she was cheating on you, that is time lost. Confront her but in a smart way and if she is true, she will tell you the truth.Other than that, live life. you got two wonderfull kids. you have seen too much drama in your life. Find another woman and live your life.
2006-09-20 06:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just confront her face to face. Easier said than done I know, but if you surprised her with it suddenly, she doesn't have time to think of a lie if she is. The look on her face and body language will say it right there. I think you already know by the red flags that are waving in the air, and most for sure you were a stepping stone. hope she didn't step to hard. Don't look for women who need to be rescued, look for women who will respect you.
2006-09-20 06:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for strange patterns in her daily routine, like if she works, staying at "work" longer than usual. Or if she goes shopping more frequently throughout the week. Don't become too suspicious unless you have something more that may tell you somethings not right. Sorry, I wish I could be of more help, that's a terrible feeling to have!! =(
2006-09-20 06:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to her that you've been burnt in the past, and that you're afraid it will happen again without you knowing about it.
Just ask her to be honest with you about her feelings if someone else comes along, instead of sneaking around behind your back.
If you two can discuss your fears openly, and be honest about things and feelings, then your relationship wont work, regardless of who cheats or doesnt.
2006-09-20 06:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly in the beginning...in case you have been with this female pal for a on a similar time as and you in user-friendly terms "like her lots" then perhaps you ought to no longer be along with her? 2nd of all there are procedures you are able to cheat with out having caught...for now. yet ultimately you will get caught with the aid of somebody. i'm keen to guess that's the comparable on your pal to boot. you are able to no longer have a "super relationship" while one substantial different is untrue. Its in undesirable style sir. I heavily doubt this may well be a serious posting...yet hi thank you for the factors.
2016-10-15 05:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like to completly 'rescued' her yet. she NEEDS to go through with the divorce otherwise she'll never be 'free.' ur in a tuff situation. yes u do seem to be her stepping stone, and i applaud u for stepping in and helping this woman. but she seems to be afraid of changing things. i dont think u should investigate her. u know who she's cheating with; it's u. she's still married.
2006-09-20 06:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is coming up with reasons why she does not want you to pay for the divorce then she must still have feelings for this guy so if i was you i would ask her why can t you pay for the divorce and if she don't give you a reason or a good enough reason why then leave her>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>3
2006-09-20 06:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by kaylaissexy15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how you would do this but i'm encouraging you to because there's nothing worse than a broken heart, and since you've had one before you really do need to take precaution. all i can tell you is to look for signs and lies extra carefully. good luck.
2006-09-20 06:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah,it may not be that she's cheating. some families are really judgemental when it comes to divorse, so maybe its her way of not feeling like a failure at marriage. so, give her a break!
2006-09-20 06:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by Helena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋