My daughter is 8 weeks old and will only sleep with my husband and I in our bed at night. We have a bassinet as well next to the bed but she prefers the human contact and even holds me through the night. During the day she will sleep on the boppy when it's around me, in my arms, in her bouncer or her swing but not her pack 'n play or her crib. I know that at this age the human contact is essential but how long should I wait before having her sleep (or letting her cry) in her crib?
2006-09-20 06:05:30 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle Molina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She sleeps in a co-sleeper in bed with us.
2006-09-20 06:32:55 · update #1
as much as it may be, you really should not sleep with your newborn. especially if either you or your husband (or both) are heavy sleepers. you should have been given the pros and cons of this at the hospital (in fact, many of them do not recommend it). my mother-in-law (a pediatrician for over 40 years each) and my sister (nurse) and our friends' parents (OB and pediatrician) all told us not to do it.
we started our baby in her co-sleeper when we got home from the hospital. she still had a lot of human contact (>70% of the day) because my wife breastfed her, and i burped her afterwards. when she fell asleep, i put her down in her co-sleeper and about half an hour later it is time to nurse again. so, there is plenty of contact with us, even without sleeping with us. because of this, she never cries when we put her down.
but, you have to guage what your baby is crying about. at this age, they cry because they want/need something. my sister told us that you can never spoil your baby by carrying them when they cry. and we have a very happy baby.
2006-09-20 06:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ sf_ca ღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human Contact is essential but alas your child has learned at a young age as do they all the art of manipulating mommy. You need to transfer her to her own crib as soon as possible. Sleeping with a newborn infant in your bed is extrememy dangerous, you could roll over on her in the night and she could suffocate. NOT KIDDING. Also, the transition is only going to get harder as she gets older let her go to her bed you might be surprised at how well she settles into her new surroundings and you will also be surprised what a wonderful effect this will have on your marriage. Sleeping in the same room with a 8 week old is a lot different than sharing your bed with a 5 year old that is terrified to sleep for the first time by themselves. I would transistion as soon as possible.
2006-09-20 06:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my first child and she ended up being three before she would sleep in her own bed. With my other two I had learned from my mistakes and started out with them with me at night but during the day I put them in the bassinet, they fussed at first but did sleep. After about 2 months we started putting htem in the bassinet at night then moved to the crib after they handled that. It is true you can smother a baby in your sleep but it is comforting to both of you to have them close. Just do it a little at a time and go from there that way you both accept it as the change is made.
2006-09-20 07:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start now. I did exactly what you are doing now and my daughter at 4 still climbs into bed with me in the middle of the night. She will sneak in while we are sleeping. My girlfriend just had a baby who is two weeks old and she training her to start sleeping in the crib. Its hard but she notices that each night is getting easier for her.
2006-09-20 06:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should visit parents.com or a parenting website. People all have different opinions on this matter. Personally, newborns need the contact and they do not even know what spoiling is about. They also need alone time, though, to develop independence and soon your baby WILL need to learn to fall asleep on his/her own. This is self soothing. I always jumped at every little sound my son made and he learned that I would immediately pick him up for any little thing. I learned that if I had let him comfort himself, he would have been a little less dependent on me as he grew and he figured out how to play me! I still love him more than anything, though! Good luck and God Bless you and your baby!!
2006-09-20 06:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to let you know from experience, you need to make her sleep by herself as soon as you can. otherwise you will have a child that cannot sleep without you. that will be a complete pain to undo in a few years. transition her to her bassinet today. a slow transition over a week should do it. once she can roll over then it is time to move her to her crib.
best of luck!
2006-09-20 06:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it extremely relies upon on you and your infant. My son had no subject slumbering in his bassinet/ crib good as quickly as we introduced him homestead from the scientific institution. yet on your case, i'm going to assert for constructive with the aid of 6 - 8 months old. yet that's in simple terms my opinion. You as a mom do in spite of u experience ultimate! stable luck!
2016-10-15 05:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children and have always heard it was bad to have them sleep with you. So I would start with her naps during the day until she gets used to it and when she does start that at night. Start that now before it becomes a big problem for you and your marriage.
2006-09-20 06:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats VERY dangerous to sleep with your baby in your bed. didnt they tell you that at the hospital??!?! put her in her crip when she's sleeping!! even for naps!. and give her that human contact when she's awake!!!
2006-09-20 06:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
about 3 mounth maby4or5
2006-09-20 10:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lexi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋