Obviously i've made some mistakes previously....I used to be a dancer/ and obviously i was more premiscious back when I was around 18. Things have changed and im a lot more reserved etc. Anyways, this guy I just met asked me how many men i've been with and i told him around the same as you but its a total lie and he wants a number! Obviously im not going to tell him the truth! What do i do? Would a guy seriously date a girl who told him a number like that! I'm 22 and been with around 30 guys! :(
2006-09-20 05:57:28 · 22 answers · asked by BLoNdE22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth. Lying never does any good, in the end. How do you think he would feel if he later found out that you lied? How would you feel if you found out he lied about something important to you?
He may run from you, for having such a sordid past. Sure, in a perfect world he would say that the past was past, what matters is you now, etc. But, in truth, it does matter to most of us. Hopefully he is big enough to accept that truth about you, but he well may not. You need to find someone who will accept you for all you are, and all you were, because what you were has a big part in making you what you are today.
2006-09-20 06:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a terribly immature question. I know because I asked it a few times when I was a young man.....really stupid. If you just met him that is really an impertinent and personal question. Ask him why he wants to or "has to" know. He is probably getting ready to make some sort of moral judgement about you. If you tell him the truth he will always be tempted to throw that number in your face and call you a slut or a whore when and if he gets mad at you. Tell him the number is not important and that the most important thing in your relationship is the fact that you are with him and that is all that matters. If he can't accept that, then he can leave and if he starts to go tell him the real number, that you made some mistakes and that he was just another one.
2006-09-20 13:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even tho u r not the same person that u were, u just met this man? if u just met him it's really none of his business: lie. tell him like 5 or something. but if u really like him and are trying to aim for a serious relationship u have to be honest with him. just let him know ur past be honest. some guys dont care. but he seems to care. so maybe the best thing is to simply say "im not the same person anymore." and if he persues tell him the truth. if he doesnt give u a chance then he's not worth it. u cant change ur past. it's part of u. so why lie
2006-09-20 13:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by clueless_idiot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you see American Pie? Guys always lie about their sexual conquests, in the movie they said if a guy ssaid he slept with 9 girls it was actually 3 and if a girl said she slept with 2 guys it was really six...divide by three for guys and multiply by three for girls.
All joking aside, this really shouldn't have anything to do with the person you are today, everybody has made mistakes. If you tell him the truth he might run and if you lie he'll find out the truth and run. It's a lose lose situation.
If he honestly cares about you, he wouldn't be asking you a question like that.
2006-09-20 13:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether its 22 or 2 guys seem to have this weird hang up about our sexual paths. Who you were and who you are now are two different people and you shouldn't be judged. If he is concerned for health reasons , be sure to have protected sex. If he just wants a number just because then it's really none of his business. His number seems to be extremely low so he is either lying or may be very conservative in that area. If you tell him your number he may be turned off.Do not feel the need to spill ALL of your business so early in the relationship.
2006-09-20 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider him long term relationship material, I suggest you tell him the truth. The past always comes back to haunt you one way or the other. My fiance has been with 7 girls, and well.. I've been with way more than he has. He doesn't care about the number - it's the past, there is nothing you can do to change the number. So I suggest you tell the truth :) Good luck~
2006-09-20 13:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by .. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you do the rule of 3 since he say that he has been with three you divide that by 3 so he only been with 1 girl so you do the same thing divide by 3 and tell him 10 but tell him that you where a dancer and it should not matter if you don't have any std's or anything like that.
2006-09-20 13:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by cuball278 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth, and let him know you are a different person now. You cant really rely on someone you can't be honest with. And it is way better to find that out now.
2006-09-20 12:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one you need to slow down on the guy and two just tell him you have made mistakes and tell the truth
2006-09-20 13:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever tell a guy your number, and neverr ask his, you are just setting yourself up for a fall. unless it pertains to the future, whatever happened in the past, should stay there
2006-09-20 13:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by KELLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋