i always go for guys who r not 2 gd looking, a bit geeky or have no social skills. i just never believe in myself and only when i've flirted with them enough for them to be interested do i realise what ive done.
has happened 3 times now... post ppl any ideas, opinions, ways to improve my self esteem?
2006-09-20 05:54:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are classing guys as geeky or jocks, etc. Maybe there is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you are deeper and look beyond social classes that disolve after high school. Maybe you are dating the guys that know how to treat a girl. Personally, I find the 'preppy' guys, even at my age, are quite often not the best relationship material.
2006-09-20 05:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you have always been told you were not "good enough" or "pretty enough" or "smart enough". You need to tell the people that are telling you this that you ARE and that you don't appreciate them saying that.
Everyone has unique tallents.. find yours.. explore them. find what you do well and then do it so others can see how well you do it. thats a first step.
then.. you need to start believing in yourself... that you are a good person that you do matter. You could try "possitive affermations" - stand in front of the mirror every morning when you get up and every night before going to bed and look yourself straight in the eye and say out loud "I'm a good person. I belive in my self. I have unique tallents. I'm pretty. People enjoy my company" a dozen or so times for about 2 months. that should help you on your way as well. I know it sounds dorky but it does work!
2006-09-20 06:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 11:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Clover
Try reading this. It has helped me enormously in the past.
"“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
by Marianne Williamson
2006-09-20 07:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not think you are good enough for the bloke that you actually fancy? only way to boost your confidence is to talk and flirt with these guys that you like. bet you will find that they will be falling overthemselves to go out with you.
2006-09-20 06:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Monkeyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause they are not good looking doesnt mean they are not worth being with .When I first met my partner I tohught he was not the best looking guy in the world but over a few months or so suddenly I thought of him as being the most gorgeous guy around .Most of the good looking guys out there know they are good looking and use their looks to get what they want .
Just be yourself and what ever you attract you attract good looks or not
2006-09-20 06:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, you sound like me. I personally find doing myself up helps, it gives me something to hide behind, if you know what I mean. Do your hair, nails, and make up then go out and have fun. If you feel positive, the people you then pick up will also be positive
2006-09-20 06:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop worrying babe just remember lifes a journey its not about wat u thinks going to happen or might happen its about enjoying the ride,have fun just be who you are and when you least expect it great things will happen just relax,have fun and be careful and im sure you will be happy and meet some1 you wont feel youve got to flirt with just 4 the sake of it-1day youll meet some1 who you really want to flirt with and be propa interested in! take care remember dont worry be happy! x
2006-09-20 06:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not to good looking with no social skills does that mean i have hope?
2006-09-20 06:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a new hairstyle and get involved in some activities!!!
2006-09-20 05:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋