the men are usually married or "unavailible" at the time. i know these things, but still, i continue with the unhealthy relationship.
2006-09-20 05:26:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have bad luck, it's just right now a certain type of man is targeting you. Some guys are predators of girls with low self esteem and the more bad relationships you've had the worse these guys seem to get.
I've been there, so believe me, you need to talk to someone, a professional therapist or just a trustworthy friend. You have to sit down with this person & figure out how to heal yourself so that you don't keep on getting hurt by these scum bags.
First of all you need to take a break from relationships so that you can heal & find yourself. Once you feel confidant that you are ready to start dating again, don't just fall for the first good looking smooth talker that comes along.
Casually date a few guys at the same time.
Don't tolerate poor behavior. If he doesn't call you when he sez he's gonna, he's cut from the line up. Raise your standards. You deserve to be treated like queen & to be in a happy, uncomplicated relationship.
It will take time but you & your happiness are worth it!! You don't want to keep having guys dump on you do you? Things are only going to escalate unless you change your relationship pattern now! You CAN do this!! I did! I've been with the same guy for 8 years now, we've been married for 7 of those years & have two beuatiful boys!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-20 05:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey Haze if your 33 grow up wait a while or go some place but check for rings may-be or so and ask first or may-be you should be sure friends or so know the man first. Are you just out or really like a relationship. Now I am going back an see what answers are to my questions in relationships!
2006-09-20 05:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may seek out men who are unavailable, because you yourself are afraid of commitment. This way, there is no chance that the man will want more from you. You need to work on breaking this pattern and find someone who IS available and who wants to be with you. Then, you need to risk being emotionally available. It's difficult, but it can be done. And the rewards are great in the end. No pun intended.
2006-09-20 05:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit worring about a relationship. Sounds like you have other issues that you are trying to cover up with a relationship, so you are jumping into the wrong ones. You should sit down with a friend (female) that you trust and talk frankly about what she sees in your past relationship to give you a better perspective on the situation. Once you find out what it is that you REALLY want, then you can quit focusing on men, and the right man will sneak up on you and fall in love with you.
2006-09-20 05:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's the corn flakes theory I do it too. Chances are you reqiure the men in your life to be emotionaly or physicaly unavailable to you and it could be a number of things but the cornflakes theory goes like this when you go to the store and you hit the cornflakes isle and you buy yourself 18 differnt packages and you get home and start opening your not allowed to be surprised that regardless of the different packaging they are all cornflakes. I know it sounds rediculous but I can assure you nexttime a man approaches you and begins to talk listen to their little hey baby dance and then listen for it and deep down inside you you'll hear it Cornflakes then you know to send him on his way pop the number and say Next Please.
2006-09-20 05:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where do you look for these men? If you try harder to avoid them she will get away from them. When you find they are married, get the hell away from them!! Ask yourself what you really like about them. You will see that bad overcomes good and talk yourself to leave these unhealthy relationships. If getting laid is what you want, go get a toy. You are only worth what you make yourself to be. If you continue letting yourself be mistreated and acting like a cheap ****, you will attract these a$$ holes. So straighten up woman!!!
2006-09-20 05:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by ladida 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because you give your heart away to the wrong man.. You should never continue with a relationship like that..
2006-09-20 05:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
counseling. best answer I could give you. If you're in school, counseling sessions are usually included with your tuition and fees through the student life office. good luck, sweetie. when you realize how worthy you are of being loved the way you deserve to be loved, then you'll stop falling for Mr. wrong.
2006-09-20 05:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by writerchick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U just answered ur ?. Stay away from those type of men. If they're in a relationship, why r u dating these men?
2006-09-20 05:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't even enter unavailable women on my radar screen....and I'm desperate!! Why are you even opening the door to these guys? Of course they are going to be sucky relationships for you.
2006-09-20 05:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋