someone keeps telling me how "beautiful" I am.... I always say thank you. He is very insistent that I believe him, but I have serious negative body image issues. A polite thank you dosen't satisfy him and when he pushes the issue it makes me upset. I've tried to explain my problem, but he seems set on making me think I'm beautiful. I don't think he can change 33 years of negative thinking. Any ideas how I can get him to stop trying or at least compromise so I don't get so upset???
2006-09-20 05:18:03 · 18 answers · asked by curiouszoey01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you have to ask your self, why is he not accepting your thank you, maybe he feels insecure about it, and i bet he does like you so go for it
2006-09-20 05:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst somebody provides a compliment that is purely that, a compliment. thank you, usually is all it is mandatory. initiate questioning better approximately your self and don't be so suspicious. After somebody provides compliment, why would you think of they are feeling sorry for you? in case you're down approximately some thing, human beings can usually understand that and attempt to make you experience better. i'd evaluate that a solid undertaking, via fact everyone desires a enhance each now and then. Take it once you will get it, via fact it would not come around all that oftentimes. Compliments are a solid bounce initiate for a communique. the guy may well be interested in you or are purely attempting to get to renowned you better. What better way than a compliment. that is better than being skipped over. Getting a compliment from all people is an invaluable commodity presently. do not question human beings as not being genuine. in the event that they at the instant are not genuine, they'd not even word you.
2016-12-18 13:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop with the negative crap. He believes your beautiful say thanks and be appreciative if it's a constant thing and you truley believe it's insencere than just tell him. As far as your body image is concerned see a therapist. Seeing someone does not mean you are somehow damaged you just need to reprogram your mode of thinking list ten things you like about yourself. If you can't call in the couceler you have assets I can assure you of that having never seen you. If there are big physical changes you still want to make after therapy go have a complimentary consult with a good plastic surgeon then do what you want. The bottom line is we live in an age where you can truly be anything you want so take full advantage. And bless you you'll be ok.
2006-09-20 05:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way as you do. I used to want to be a Victoria's Secret model when I was out of high school. I ended up getting pregnant shortly after that. My husband tells me all the time that I'm beautiful, sexy, hot, what have you. My family and friends say I'm pretty and strangers make it a point to tell me what they think. Men and women. It's uncomfortable for me too. I lost all of my weight immediately following delivery and went back to a size 1. I have wide hips now and am self consience about them. I don't have major stretch marks or anything, but my figure is more curvy. I just say thank you that's nice of you to say and keep my insecurities to myself. If you can't see your beauty, you don't think anyone else can either, right?
2006-09-20 05:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say "thank you" and move on. It's strange that he wants something more. Whenever I give someone a compliment, all I expect is a "thank you." (And maybe a brief explanation like, "Thanks- I cut my hair yesterday" or "Thank you- I got this shirt at Old Navy.") When you say thank you, leave it at that. He doesn't need an explanation about your negative body image issue- just a polite thank you should suffice. If he keeps insisting that you believe him, just lie and say, "I believe you. Thanks." Your description of him makes him sound creepy- I might avoid him. A compliment shouldn't lead to you feeling upset.
2006-09-20 05:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a polite thank you SHOULD suffice. If he pushes the issue, then HE IS BEING RUDE, not you. Tell him thank you and that's the end of the discussion, and you do not feel comfortable pursuing a conversation about your looks. This guy has issues, or he is pushing you for a date or something.
next time, say "thank you, I think so too!" and WALK AWAY from this guy.
2006-09-20 05:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe "I appreciate your sentiment."? That way you are validating that he is saying something he thinks is meaningful but you don't necessarily agree with.
(It takes time to get over hurt that you've endured for so many years, but I hope one day you will be able to look in the mirror and say, you know what, he was right...I am beautiful! Watch Christina Aguilera's "Beautiful" music video...and really sit down and watch it. It will bring you to cathartic tears!)
2006-09-20 05:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by everfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he expect you to do? Bat your lashes and say, "thank you dahling"? Thank you should be enough. Tell him you appreciate his compliment, but you are working on your body image issues. It starts with you, not him. He needs to understand that.
2006-09-20 05:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by caramellatte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, show polite gratitude towards him. Second, explain to him your true feelings and why you feel that way. Hopefully he'll show you courtesy by not pushing the subject and by also supporting you and helping you to feel better about yourself.
2006-09-20 05:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Oh really i knew that since i was born and you dont look that bad either" make it sound sarcastic since he dont want to accept a polite thank you.
2006-09-20 05:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm then the problem is his. You have problems for having a negative self image, but he is pushy and a little "stalkerish."
2006-09-20 05:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by camus0281 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋