Get this and I think its terrible.....my fiances cousin had this big elaborate New York wedding and charged everyone $100 per person to attend.....i think thats terrible, the guest payed for her whole wedding plus the honeymoon! Im planning a wedding and my fiance wnats to do the same thing and Im like.....absolutly not!!!!
2006-09-20 05:14:54 · 45 answers · asked by bbwg_hbic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that is terribly rude and tacky. let him charge HIS guests. but dont charge your own.
2006-09-20 05:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The most shocking thing to me is that people actually went!!
I agree with the person who said it becomes more about the guests feeling they got what they paid for. And what about the people who said they were coming and then didn't? Did they get their money back? I think that is the tackiest thing I have ever heard.
It also sends the message that you do not care whether or not guests attend unless they can pay. You should want everyone there not just the guests with the big wallets.
And I wonder what people thought. I am sure some family members paid and attended but had a few choice things to say. Do not force your guests to pay for something they did not ask for. You and your fiance are choosing to get married. No guest is forcing you to do it.
Tell your fiance that you do not want to do that and he should respect that. Why not have a "Dollar Dance" instead?
A "Dollar Dance" is simply where guests dance with the bride and groom for a small "fee". Guest can give has much as they want. It is actually quite common at weddings. Most guests already plan on giving the couple cash and it gives them a nice opportunity to visit with the bride/groom.
You can have a very beautiful wedding without spending a lot of money. Simply be creative and do not be afraid to do things yourselves.
Congratulations and best wishes for many happy years together!!
2006-09-20 06:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by mbjwithouse 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHAT no way! You are 100% correct! You DONT charge your guests to attend! I can't believe his cousin got away with that! If you do that then most people you invite WILL NOT attend the wedding and may be so offended as not to send you a gift. I would never send a gift or attend a wedding that I had to pay to attend! Plus you will receive no gifts from people who actually are willing to pay to attend. Tell your fiance he can charge any of his guests (his family and friends) but you REFUSE to charge any of your guests. And guess what? Only your guests will attend so you will win in the end :)
2006-09-20 08:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!
Charging "admission" to any private social event is disgusting!
And, honestly, I'd rethink marrying someone who thinks it is okay to ask "guests" to help you live beyond your means.
What's next? Asking friends to come to your home for dinner and billing them for the groceries plus a little for use of the utensils and preparation of the food?
Every couple should plan the wedding they can afford and if that means punch and cake in a public park, so be it, or else they should put off the wedding until they have saved enough to pay for the wedding they want.
Shaking down the guests is unspeakably crass.
2006-09-20 05:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Horrid and tacky in the extreme.
Someone I know went to a wedding and later got a bill from the mother of the bride (her sister) that said she owed the couple another gift or to send "X" amount of money because the cost of her gift didn't equal the cost of her portion of the reception.
I don't see many people attending a wedding they have to pay to attend. In a sence, they already are paying if they have to travel any distance or stay over night in a hotel.
Stand your ground and don't let him convince you to charge admission to your wedding.
Are you certain you want to go through with marrying someone like that?
2006-09-20 09:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any mention of money with a party you are throwing is tacky tacky tacky. This includes the money dance/dollar dance, or any sort of implying that money should be your gift. I can't imagine having a party at my home and asking my guests to pay for it.
Dear Jane,
I'm throwing myself a birthday party next weekend and I'd be thrilled if you could come. It will cost $100 per person to attend. I'm registered at Target and Wal-Mart.
Sara
Slap your fiance and tell him that you refuse to have your (the two of you) wedding ruined by such a lack of etiquette.
2006-09-20 07:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let this idea go to seed, and here's where I think it ends up:
If I'm going to pay $100 for an event, I expect an EVENT. I want the food to be top notch, I want to be entertained, I get to judge if I got my money's worth, etc.
In other words, the wedding STOPS being a celebration for the couple getting married, and STARTS becoming about my expectations as a PAYING CUSTOMER and a CONSUMER (not a "guest" anymore).
Perhaps this kind of progressive financing arrangement is acceptable in New York - I have no idea, and don't intend to denigrate New Yorkers - but I'm pretty sure if one of my friends tried to pull that here in NorCal, they'd end up with a pretty lonely wedding.
And the people who showed, well, you wouldn't want them attending.
2006-09-20 05:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats very tacky what was the point in having a huge lavish wedding if they couldnt afford it and why in the world would their guest pay $100 to attend.
2006-09-20 08:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe I would have attended a wedding with an admission fee. That's just bad taste. If it were someone I was really close to and would not want to miss the wedding, then I would assume that I was close enough to tell them how tacky they were.
2006-09-20 08:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's super tacky. The wedding is suppose to be a party that you throw for your guests, not something people pay to attend. I would definitely stick with tradition and try to cut corners to save some money, not ask people for cash! Congratulations though!
2006-09-20 05:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you can't afford the wedding on your own...then you downsize the event. If I were invited to a $100/person wedding, (and likely expected to supplement that cost with a pricey gift!) I would send back the RSVP with regrets. The wedding is not the responsibility of the guests to pay for and I am surprised they got away with it without a great deal of refusals. However, if it worked for them, you might want to consider it only because weddings, I'll admit, ARE quite expensive. My advice, though, is about 95% that it would be a bad idea.
2006-09-20 05:30:33 · answer #11 · answered by Marginality 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋