I just shake my head at times, she's growing up so fast & it seems like I'm in denial.
We openly talk & I explain to her that when she's old & grey she'll still be my baby.
At what point did you stop seeing them as kids (if you ever did)?
2006-09-20 05:06:40 · 15 answers · asked by Ivyvine 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have 4 children, 3 girls and a boy. 19, 17, 13, and 9.
My eldest is a girl, now a Sophomore in College. She still wants to be daddie's girl, she sits in my lap puts her arms around my neck, and she is and will always be. But she is also very adult and independent, i am amazed at the wonderful woman and person she has become. I sometimes forget what she looked like when she was little, then I see a picture and it all comes flooding back. You are correct no matter how old she or her siblings get, they will still be my babies.
My son is 17, he tests me all the time to see if he is as strong as I am. He says someday when I am old and gray, he will get me when I am in my wheel chair. I tell him I will hit him with my cane and run over his toes... He is 6' tall and weighs 205 lbs, but sometimes, when we are watching a movie, he will still sit next to me and put his head on my shoulder and cuddle like he did when he was 5. I buy him a kids christmas present every year, something he would have liked when he was 7-10 years old. He loves it, and it helps me forget that I don't have a little boy anymore..
As for my two youngest daughters, I now try to relish every moment that I can with them because I know that this time is fleeting. It will pass and I will wonder what happened and where my babies are. Hopefully, by then I will have grandchildren to enjoy in the sunset of my life....
2006-09-20 05:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by Biggen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I have told all of mine -- you're my kids and you will always be my kids -- even when you're adults, you're my kids. Perhaps it would be easier to understand if you think back when you were that age. New to you ideas, empowered with what you thought were new ideas (the same ones your parents had at around that age), discovering a new world beyond the one you knew -- belonging to a new group -- the teen group, no longer a wanna be, but a real teen. Feeling a bit invincible, ready to step up to the challenges (especially if it benefits me) . . . secure in knowing that I have a home and time to decide what I want to do in life (look how long it took me to get through the first 12 years!) -- now it is time for fun and discovery -- new things, a new me.
Do you recall any of that? And that feeling is often universal for kids -- they've been pushing limits to see how far they can expand their new horizons. They are energized. They surprise us with wisdom we did not know they had and then they turn around and act like they are still 2 years old!
They grow up. Help them to do it gracefully by accepting that they are young adults and they will have an easier time and so will you if you do not freeze them in your mind to an elementary school age level. You are getting older -- that is okay. Look at all the positives for your age -- new horizons!
2006-09-20 05:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by joyann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will always be your baby. I have two sons, 22 and 27. There are times they will be talking with me about something "very adult" and my mind takes me back to when they were digging holes in the sand at the river, or the oldest was pushing the youngest around in an empty Pamper box(it was their "race car"). Precious moments. A few years ago, my oldest fell in to some difficult times and the law saw him as an adult, my heart went out to the scared, shy little boy that I knew was still in his heart. Your children are a part of you. We will always want to protect them. They are adults now, and I respect them as adults, I still savor every moment I have with either of them.
2006-09-20 05:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by janice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and have tow of my own, and my daddy still thinks of me as his little girl... it's not denial, it's protectiveness and love that makes you see her that way... it won't stop... Doing so may mean that you give up on her. She'll come to appreciate it as long as you don't treat her like a child. Which it sounds like you give her the respect she deserves for her age also... Don't worry... keep doing what you're doing
2006-09-20 06:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 12 and when I remind her to do things...just habit out of the 4 year olds that I have...she gets so mad and says I am not a baby anymore Mom, I know I have to do these things...and I have to sit back and realize that she isn't a baby anymore, but she always will be in my eyes!~
Mom of only 1 girl! Love of my life!
2006-09-20 05:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent stopped seeing my son as a kid yet, cuz hes only 14. BUT, hes not a child anymore. He has matured so much and is getting ready to move into being a young man. I miss the times when he was really little, cuz he needed me more.
2006-09-20 05:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest is 11. I see in her everyday how she is getting so mature. I can picture her being in high school with all her little cheerleading friends,going to parties,football games,dates (doing nothing on them boring dates!!!!). It's weird how I have a child that age. And 2 more right behind her.
2006-09-20 07:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never will, even when they get older they'll always be your baby. Especially dad's with their daughters. They can't accept that their growing up and still refuse to let them do simple things because they still see them as 6 year olds.
2006-09-20 05:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High school. 13 is still pretty young, but when the go into high school and you need to start thinking about college, SATs, driving school, etc. and they start turning into a woman instead of a girl, you see them differently. You don't forget about when they were little and small, but they aren't that person all of a sudden.
2006-09-20 05:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by thunder2sys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know your question is to mums with older children im 13 and my mum still sees me as her lil princess (or devil) to tell you the truth i think you know when you'd stop seeing them as kids when there older then you (which will be never) shes your child and you've bought her up you've seen her aa little kid and alway will but just dont call her your lillte princess when shes 18 but inside your feeling wont change but if you ever do she her as 'grown up' it will proberbly be when shes married and has kids (if she wants them) because then you see her little and grown up if you want to see her as grown up try looking at baby photo and then the present her it might shoiw you the difference i hope this makes sence because it did in my head
2006-09-20 05:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by precious as jwls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋