I am worried if I tell him exactly what I expect outta him as far as a relationship he is gonna tuck tail and run. We have been gettin closer every time we are together and the sex is so mind blowin between us. This is gettin deep fast we have been gettin together for like months now and I wonder if its too soon to speak up or wait a while till he says something on those lines, but I am tired of waitin on him to bring it up.
2006-09-20 04:52:04 · 17 answers · asked by Mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This can be a bit tricky, especially if you really like this guy and don't want to jeopardize the union you already share. If you don't tell him what your wants and expectations are for the relationship however, you may experience a lot of unecessary upset later. I think it's fairer to both of you if you inform him of your concerns from early on. Doing this at a later stage may complicate things and set you both up for huge disappointments that may eventually lead to a breakup.
Bring your concerns to him gently and in a manner that allows him to make his own suggestions without feeling threatened. It should all work out well in the end.
Good luck :).
2006-09-20 05:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, you might not like what i have to say, but just understand that i am saying it just like i see it.
first, you started with this guy on a wrong foot by making him believe that you ok with the mind blowing sex. as far as i am concern, you there is no relationship here except that sex encounter.
all the same, you had better let him know what you want of this relationship now before you are heartbroken.
if he likes you very much, he will stay but girl if not, let him tuck his tail and run. that means he doesn't worth you. somebody better will surely come your way.
Goodluck
2006-09-20 12:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by irebless_05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As tough as it is, I'd try to stay in the moment and make every time you're with him a great one. You're right to be worried about his turning tail and running--if someone isn't ready to hear words about commitment or marriage--they will bolt in most cases. For your sake, tell yourself you'll bring it up with him "tomorrow"...and then do the same again the next day if you have to. The more great times you have, the more you'll have.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 11:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRING IT UP.........if its working out between you already then you should be able to say how you feel and what you want and he wont run away!! Its all give and take so stay in together have a drink and talk honestly and openly about what you want from each other and where you both think its going.........it will work out men are pushovers they will do it
2006-09-20 11:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My dear, this is a rough one. Mostly I have found it is easier to just tell the guy what you want. He obviously wants to be with you, but maybe he has other issues to think about such as how will he take care of you? that kind of thing. But I really think You should tell him. Otherwise you will go insane over thinking of hime every moment of the day.
2006-09-20 11:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cheri S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up to him that you want you guys to become official. Tell him you are tired of waiting and you really want to be with him then dont be afraid to speak up for something you want. becuase if you dont then he will never know how you truely feel about the two of you. he might be afriad to make things official also so now all have you to do is make the first move. good luck!!
2006-09-20 12:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bring it up at all? You might start getting what you want WITHOUT having to talk about it, and wouldnt that be better? If after a while you're NOT getting what you want, THEN talk about it with him. If he listens to you and acts accordingly, everythings great. If he 'tucks tail and runs' then he wasn't what you wanted to begin with.
2006-09-20 11:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are pretty simple minded they need things explained to them very simply. Tell him exactly how you feel and exactly what you want. As my husband always tells me He's not a mind reader. Anyway you should want to know where things stand with this guy before you fall totally in love with him.
2006-09-20 11:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might start by asking him what HE wants from the relationship. If he doesn't have an answer, or doesn't ask you what YOU are looking for, then he is getting all from the relationship he wants and any push from you would be away. In reality, if you can't talk, then you don't have a relationship.
2006-09-20 11:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These should have been brought up before the mind blowing sex. Once he's gotten the goods, it's hard to get him to sign the deal.
2006-09-20 11:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋