i am in love with a guy since my 7th standard n we r in college now..he likes me very much n i too ..but i love him also but i m not sure that he loves me or not..each time he makes me feel that he likes me much but he says that he dont belive on love bcoz love hurt mostly it ends very badly..first time when i go for a date with him he requested me to let him kiss my cheeks only..im frm a very strick family so it was much or me but i let him then he said me to french kiss but i refused n he said ok as u wish..he always appriciates me , he luv to talk about my family , my problems he consults me on everything, sometimes i feel that he is comin on hot topics with me but not awkward topics,but indeed he says that he dont belive in love ,he says that i m his very nice friend n he likes me...but he never said "i loveu"does he loves me or not?wat do u poeple think.ur opinion will really does a matter to me.to my knowledge he dont have any gf else than me..plz suggest how to deal with him..?.
2006-09-20 04:51:49 · 18 answers · asked by stranger 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know who you are and even i know it does not matter, but first ask yourself whether you really want an answer to this problem?
you know you are enjoying the pain this problem is giving you and you are in dilema whether to come out of it or not.
if you really want to come out then listen
"leave him, he wont be with you through your life, and in coming time you will definately become physical with him ."
Moreover think of your life not as a year or four but think what if you have another guy your husband may be, in your life and then this person comes in front of you.How can you react in front of your husband?.
As you say you have already kissed him, think can you tell this to somebody, and if not are you ready to remain with this guilt.
No one can live with guilt, and if you proceed in this relationship you will only get guilt and nothing else.
Remember the society you live calls a flirt guy "krishna", while a women who remains true has to go to the test that seeta went.
and you have already gone through some wrong roads.The age you are in is quite adolscent. a person life has three important junctions.
childhood, adolscent and adult. and this might be your age of turning from adolcent to adult, and mistakes happen but still you have time, once you move forward you can never come back.
Remember you can cheat everyone but not your own soul.
thats all i have to offer. hope you will take a decision that will help you get respect from your eyes and in the eyes of beholders.
These things of life are like ticking time bombs and you never know where they are inside your own thoughts, and importantly there is not alarm to tell you. you have to rely on other's past experiences and learn from their mistakes. so making myself very clear what i wish to offer, take a decision now or you can never come out of this.
2006-09-20 05:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by abhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can relax so deeply and accept things to such an extent that you feel love in everything. you will still react to oppose things which seem out of harmony with the circumstances, but there is what i guess is 'unconditional love' for life itself which goes beyond all circumstances and forms. i think letting go of the ideas which make us tense and consciously relaxing into every moment can take you to a love that is unconquerable. while i think this will give you great 'power' in the world, this love conquers the fear inside, rather than obstacles outside, which may still persist.
2016-03-26 23:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Simonne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget him if he never said 'i luv u'... dont do the mistake of telling him that u luv him... just c him as a friend... he wants to hear that u luv him but u should nt do this... he's not the only guy on earth... u will get plenty others... concentrate on ur studies n career and dont give him too much attention...
2006-09-20 04:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hes not in the friendship border if he asked to french kiss.
may be even he's not sure like u .someone got to take the first step.go ahead and incite jealously in him by telling him that someone else has proposed to u and u hav not replied yet.
that will take care of ur problem.
2006-09-20 06:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by kiran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he should tell you exactly the words"I love you".If he cares for you and you care for him then i think you are in love.If both of you start feeling that you cant live without each other then i think it should be love.If both of you listen to each other well and your time passes well with each other then i think you are both in love.But love is only give, give, and give there is no take.If both of you are like that then i thing you should be in love.No one else can tell better than both of you whether you are in love.So both of you decide.It need not be exactly like we see in movies or read in love stories.So no comparison with any thing else .You are the best judge of yourself.
2006-09-20 05:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dont need to tell you that he is in love with u. feeling of love should be there inside not in words. alreedy both u understand very well . what u need now is to go for marriage option. u get clarification about that . then all doubts will come to end. u can not force him to say iloveyou. that creates confusion. he is practical . career is also important . dont fall under expectations. serious .all in love. keep away from love movies. mix with commercial friends . let them criticise u. some times insult also brings reality into picture. u also come onside of practical . boys wd love to have girlfriend but not into serious relationship. it puts pressure on them. u tell lie . keep away from him for 2months. ur mind comes to reality. u need to talk about his family. mix naturally to his familymembers. also invite them to your house. it brings shifting of the problem to ur parants. trust ur parants. tell them seriously u r inlove . they help u of the proposal. get out of love feeing. because one of the the partner is cheatin love. u cannot support. good for good. bad for bad. discuss the issue to elders.guru. believe in god. take him to temple. good natural places. observe how does he behave silently. u can do some tecniques like sharing coffee. showing ur hobbies until he get bore off. give him some personal work. like paying bills buying some books foru travel with him to different town come back onsame bus. invite him to one of ur friends marriage. u cancheck very easily. but be practical. u must feel ur life is also imp. maintainself respect and dignity toprotect ur career and future.
2006-09-20 07:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jezz this whole question seems like your whole love life, chill out relax a bit and dont take it too seriously likes too short enjoy it whilst you can
2006-09-20 04:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be greatful...
2006-09-20 05:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by Diya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is used to Your love!
Make Your love more expensive, try to make deeper disussions!
If this is not possible, he has to hear an that You say.
If he doesn't do this he is not OK for You !
2006-09-20 05:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH!?????
Spelling and grammar are vital to people understanding what you are trying to say. I hope you don't explain your feelings for him the way you explained your situation here to us.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 04:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by michaelks63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋