I am interested in hearing from parents who have done either open or closed adoptions. At what age did you first start to discuss it with your children? What were their responses?
2006-09-20 04:45:19 · 4 answers · asked by surlygurl 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Of course, answers from adopted people are welcome too!
2006-09-20 05:17:02 · update #1
I am in the position to know both sides of the coin I gave up my oldest child for adoption and am now in the position to where I and my husband are adopting our special needs nephew the people who adopted my daughter have never told her she was adopted in fact has denied to her that she is adopted I know that this hurts her cousins and aunts who want to know her and let her know that she is loved and I know this hurts me because I gave her up not because I do not love her but because I could not take care of her As far as adopting my nephew he is being raised knowing that I am not his real momma but that does not mean I love him any less in fact he tells people we love him more because we had a choice to get him he is 7 now and does not quiet understand it all but I still let him know when ever he asks that momma does love him that she just can not take care of him in my oppinion a child needs to know that he or she is loved by as many people as possible and that no matter who the "real" momma and daddy are that you love them just the way they are
2006-09-20 05:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're planning on adopting from mexico. We also intend to expose the children to the concept of adoption from the time of adoption onward.
The concept is the same with all ages, children are born out of love. Some parents grow their babies in their bellies, others in their hearts. My adopted children are carried in my heart, and I love them from the thought of having them, to the process of getting them, to their very arrival, the same as if I carried them in my belly.
my born children will be educated the same way. Theyre no different from their adopted siblings. They'll learn about genetics in school, but the truth remains that even biological parents can choose to love or not love their children, just as much as non biological parents can.
Those are the things we plan to keep open in our family and with all our children. I want them all to know truth, and to be confident and comfortable in their position as our children.
2006-09-20 04:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you said parents..but
I was adopted and I've always known that I was. I'm really glad that my mom allowed me to know all along, so i wouldnt have to find out by accident and be angry with anyone. She just gradually began letting me know at a very early age. I can't even remember so i guess it was as early as i could understand what she was saying. I would advice to be as open as possible and this is coming from someone who was adopted theirself.
2006-09-20 05:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our son is only 14 months old but we tell him about his first mother and father, about his foster family and about my husband and I going to Guatemala to bring him home to be in our family. We want this to always be a part of his consciousness, never a surprise.
2006-09-23 13:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by thefoxxww2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋