When Someone Is Ill???

Question

and unable to care for their home and family, do you...

Pray for them, and never think to stop by to prepare a meal or straighten up the house.

Stop by everyday, and do all that you can to help, at great inconvenience to you.

Never give them much thought one way or another.

Be honest. We all know people who have been ill. What have you done to make things easier for them?

Aurora....my own mother was just released from the hospital after a 3 week stay. I know the hardships you are encountering. My thoughts are with you and your family. I wish your mother a speedy recovery.

Shadowgirl....if they have children in the house, I would hope someone comes by to cook for them.

Pooh bear.....you have a very kind heart.

Answer 1

I am by nature a mothering type of person....so I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if someone I knew needed that kind-of assistance. When my (step) dad had a heart attack 2 years ago, I went to my parents house every weekend so that things they couldn't do around the house got done...i.e. mow the lawn, weed the garden, take out the garbage...whatever they needed. Now my Grandfather is in a nursing home and I go there Wednesdays and Sundays (my mom is there on the days I can't be) He's so adorable....loves to see me...but he has Alzheimer's and Dementia so every time he sees me he's surprised I'm there...but at least he still knows who I am. I am a single mother and my son is in 3rd grade, and I work full time....so my schedule is quite hectic.....that's no excuse as far as I'm concerned....the world doesn't revolve around me...geeez I must get that from my mom....ha!

Answer 2

I don't pray. I go by and make sure that someone is there for them, or I buy groceries and make sure that they have gone to a doctor. I have never abandoned anyone in need! I can't say the same for my acquaintances or even my "Christian" family that avoid those who are ill or in need of help. NOT ONE relative of mine can say that I have avoided them when they had some need... but not one can say that they've been "there" for me. I see it all the time right here where I live, people die in their apartments and the neighbors find out about it when the stink gets too unbearable and the police are called to remove the body! The things I've done? A mitzvah loses its charm and worth if I mention them. I do not require recognition. Deeds speak louder than the best sermon or the most sincere prayer.

Answer 3

We have encouraged the idea of Community at our church. We take turns stopping in and preparing meals for those going through any kind of hardship: illness, death in the family, new baby being born…

We're a smaller church, so we can usually only keep it up consistantly for a couple of weeks, but most people are recovered by that time. It will be interesting to see how we will handle chronic illnesses.

A simple meal and twenty minutes of conversation can really encourage someone. Love tends to heal.

Answer 4

I have gone both ways in the recent passed.

I've ignored them and gone about my business.

and I've taken them to the doctor, purchased the prescriptions they needed, cooked, cleaned, taken care of bills, and waited bedside as they passed.
The inconvenience of spending your time,..... can change the way you see life and the way you see people....you may suffer inside alittle but you grow with the gifts that come from the experience.

If everyone in this world took this attitude and helped...there would be no need to ask such a question.....

Answer 5

Truthfully, it depends who it is. When my best friend's husband had a very bad car accident, I did all sorts of stuff for her, some at great inconvenience, but I didn't mind because i was helping someone I loved. But others I just keep in my thoughts and prayers and hope for the best.

Am I a jerk? Oh, well.....

Answer 6

Um, I don't know anyone who has been so sick that they couldn't take care of the house. I honestly don't know, but I would probably not cook....that would just make things worse....

I would most likely pray, and if s/he had kids I would watch them. If they needed errands and such run, I would take care of that. I wouldn't clean, but I would help out with what they needed...call every once in a while...just try to help. I can't clean other's houses it just gets worse lol.

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shadowgirl

Answer 7

I am always available to help and everyone I know knows that. They would not hesitate to contact me in need, but I also always check up on them. If I see they need help, I help, unless they would prefer for me not to.

If it were someone I don't know well and I found out they needed help, I would offer, but more likely try to find a family member or friend to help. People get very uncomfortable about getting help from others. I try to respect their wishes, but not let them harm themselves in the long run.

In less serious situations, I bake everyone cookies.

Answer 8

When people that I know have been ill, and couldn't do for themselves, I have gone to their house to help them out, I sometimes go to the store for them, bring them meals, wash their clothes, I have even took some to the doctor for their appointments. I try to do what I can for them, to make it a little easier for them. I still to this day will visit the elderly that have no one, so that they can have someone to talk with. I love visiting with them. they have wonderful stories to tell.

Answer 9

My neighbor has cancer, he is an older man and he and his wife are on a fixed income. I stop by on the days his home health care nurse is not assigned and since he can't drive I have run their errands when I do mine. They call or stop by when they need me and they know I will do whatever I can. I don't pray.

Answer 10

When my mother was operated on and was put in a wheelchair so that she could not cook or clean I was at my parents every night making sure they had what they needed. I'm their child, they gave me life so it helping them when they need it isn't asking a lot in return.