Okay so I've been dating him for over a year we just got engaged and we now share his house or have for the past 3 months. It has been a downhill battle -- he's a neat freak, I have kids, he requires loads of one on one time and again I have kids, a full time job, and I have lost all of my friends because I spend every waking moment with him. I have been completely devoted and faithful but I can't take it anymore. I'm sorry for things I don't even know I am sorry for anymore. I have lost my self and love for myself but now if i don't come home he's threatening to hurt himself, to burn all of my things, all of the crazy stuff. I just want out and my belongings...........we are 25 and 27 incase you found his action a little immature.
2006-09-20 04:28:05 · 11 answers · asked by blondandsmart79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's young. He doesn't have kids so he doesn't know and understand some of the things you go thru. But at the same time, maybe he feels neglected by you because you are so busy. Have you tried just sitting down and calmly talking to him about your issues? tell him how you feel. but it sounds like it might be too late for talk. You have kids and you have to think about their safety and what you expose them to. Your kids, nor you, need to be in a situation like that. If you need to, get the police to come over to help you in getting your stuff. If you are engaged and he shares his home with you, it sounds like he loves you. If it isn't too late for talk, seriously, sit down and calmly talk about things. if not, just get your things mama, and leave. it will be difficult, it always is. but you're a woman, you can do it. good luck.
2006-09-20 04:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by kb'sgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so what u do is phone anyone and everyone u know, organise a day off work (when hes at work) and get all ur stuff moved out of there. By the time he gets home there will b nothing to burn. As for the threats to hurt himself well thats so stupid!! Just cos a relationship ends its not the end or ur life. He needs to just get over it and move on. One door opens after another closes. His issues arent yours once ur not together anymore, and u need to put ur kids in a healthy environment, and b happy urself again.
2006-09-20 04:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm worried about your children because he sounds like a psycho. Please get them out of there first of all, and worry about yourself later. Is there a relative who will take them for just a little while until you can get yourself free? In the meantime, just tell him that you decided that both of you need a break without the children for a little while. Then, plot your own escape. It will be far safer for them if you do this. Anyone who threatens to harm himself is in need of mental health care. You can't leave the children around him any longer!!! Once the children are safely settled elsewhere, wait until he leaves home, and gather your things and flee to safety. Don't try to have a confrontation with him. Just disappear, and leave a note telling him it's for the best. I wish you the best of luck!
Buzz
2006-09-20 04:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a day or two off from work and move all your stuff. Many ppl threaten to hurt themselves but rarely do. He's a control freak. Get OUT!
2006-09-20 04:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get out. He is manipulating you. Control is a very dangerous, and potentially harmful behavior. You need a plan. Get another place, arrange for movers to help, get organized, and when he leaves for work, get out. You may loose a few items because of time but items can be replaced.
2006-09-20 04:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to first ask your self if you are sure you want to break off the angagement. Then you ask yourself if it would be fair to you and your fiance'. Next you come to a decision. Next, if you have decide to break it off sit him down to talk and ask him how he feels. Then tell him how you feel. and ask him what he thinks about it. And if it is neccesary for you to break it off then do what you have to do because you cant continue to put and bring yourself down Be true to yourself but just let him know how you feel. and be sure to get the police involed in case anything happens
2006-09-20 04:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Baby g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to get the law involved as far as getting out and making sure you get your belongings, thw whole threatning to hurt himself it seems to be a cry for attention. Get out and have a sherrif help you get out
2006-09-20 04:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by italianprincess_fl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a policeman escort you to get your things out. If this dude threatens to harm himself, tell him ok, he's gotta do what he's gotta do to get over it, more power to him.
2006-09-20 04:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your parents house...you can't control peoples behavior...they have to control themselves..good luck
2006-09-20 04:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by roy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ANSWER IS MOVE IN WITH ME . I'M A NICE GUY IN WA.
2006-09-20 04:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by JUST ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋