well since i first met her and we became lovers she changed alot in me and in my character...like i used to know alot of other girls and love to go out alot..but now i dont like to know many people and ownestly if i needed any thing i search for a male not for a female to help me...cause i dont wonna say a word to any other girl...she made me like that...before her i knew alot of girls and girls was fightin to have me..but now i dont want that..i only want her...she is so jelouse for me.... but what kills me when i ask form her to do something she says that i'm complecated..!!! even if that thing i'm askin she asked it before from me to do.... this thing makes me feel that i love her more than she do..and some times makes me feel that she dont..and dont want to be asked about any thing she do or act although she keeps askin me all the time ....well i love her alot but also i dont love to feel that way..cause that dont give me any reason to give her more in love...thanx all
2006-09-20 04:20:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ARE YOU SURE SHE'S NOT MAKING YOU FEEL GUILTY TO COVER UP THE FACT THAT SHE'S STEPPIN OUT ON YOU????
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2006-09-20 04:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by alice b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a girl point of view:
First: There is something that is bothering you about the way that she acts, she has got to understand when you talk to her about this that you are not trying to break up with her but that you feel underappreciated. If she keeps saying that you are complicated then tell her that if she keeps saying that she will never understand you. For example if you told her that then she would flip out and say that you are insensitive. Well she's kinda beign insensitive to you. TALK to her and tell her that she must LISTEN and then react.
Second: Jealousy is never a good thing. We are always going to feel it with a love but it should never get in the way of the other person's normal life functions, such as friends. Re-assure her she has no reason to be jealous.
Third: If she keeps asking you if you love her, I'm not sure is it something you're not doing or is she insecure? You also need to talk about this.
Key to relationships (any): COMMUNICATION!!!!
2006-09-20 11:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by arana_xoxo_sike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been many times in my life when I thought I was in love. Love can be complicated. What is sounds like to me is you have grown used to having her around and she feels the same. You may have started out strong and you two really felt a connection, but it never really evolved in to love. Love is when each partner supports and trusts one another. Love should make you feel good, not question how the other person makes you feel or treats you.
Its a terrible mix of emotions to feel this way. It may feel like love, because you care about the person, it may feel like love because you have grown close to them. Some people get confused and associate familiarity with love.
Personally I would break up, deal with the hurt and pain and move on. It may take a while but eventually you will find someone who treats you with respect and makes you feel good about yourself.
2006-09-20 11:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we women are complicated.... we are worried about how your going to hurt us...we're not worried about how your going to get hurt...kinda selfish . It doesn't mean that we don't love you guys it's just that we not thinking from your perspective. you gotta tell her how you feel.I too am a jealous woman...for now he's not allowed to have female freinds that are not already attached.But to keep it fair I have no male freinds that aren't already married.I try not ask for things I'm not willing to give up myself.
2006-09-20 11:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Boo Boo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gurls are like tha sometimes. i get like tha wit my man every now and then like i don't like to share his time wit other gurls... the question for u is how is ur gurls past?! has she been hurt before becuz if she has tha might have tons to do wit how she treats u as her boyfriend. she may think tha u may treat her da same way. so all u need to do is reassure tha u r hers and she has nothing to worry about and tha may solve ur problem. becuz some gurls have been so burned b4 tha they may not realize tha they are pushing away the one they love... for as gurls tha are friends just basically have them hang wit u and ur lady for awhile tha way she can learn to trust u more and u get to have friends tha are gurls. good luck wit tha.
2006-09-20 11:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by simply keshia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first, go directly to your girlfriends purse, reach in and find your nuts and take them back. After you put your nuts back in their sack, get your butt back in school, learn proper grammar and spelling, then come back and ask a freakin' question!
2006-09-20 11:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by michaelks63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be reminded that you could have someone do this for you and also of the love you have for her. Don't expect someone to have the same exact love you have for them but expect some one to do for you the same way you'll do for them.
2006-09-20 11:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by GiGi V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that was too dam long to read without having a fricking question in it.
2006-09-20 11:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and think well about wht u want n dont want... try to c how u can improve ur realtionship and try to understand each other better
2006-09-20 11:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would talk to her about it if it makes you uncomfortable. Try to use spell check. Good luck
2006-09-20 11:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋