if someone tries not to be with u all the time u want to be with him but when he needs u he will call u and ask you to meet him . he tells u that he is u'r boyfriend he has the right to meet u when he needs what dou feel?
2006-09-20 04:14:08 · 17 answers · asked by kecho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see two problems with what you have said...First you want to know is it wrong if he does not want to be with you all the time you want to be with him... Do you want to be with him 24X7? That can be smothering to anyone and makes you look desperate. The second problem is that you say he calls and says to meet him and he has the right to meet you when he needs you... That sounds like a controller that knows it... If you do not want to just end it with him, try this...
Don't call him (I know this is hard), don't go see him, make him come to you...The next time he calls and says he wants to meet you, say "no", tell him you have other plans and if he wants to get together with you, he needs to set a date in advance. This is where the term "date" comes from by the way. Make him set a date and time. Chances are that he will not like it, but you need to regain some control back. From what little you have said, it appears to me that you have made it known that you want to be with him any time you can and he knows you are sitting there waiting on him.
Like several other people have said, he sounds like a player, sounds like he is using your emotional attachment to him for his gain. If you do not want to dump him (my recommendation), you need to at least take some of the control back and not be at his beck and call all the time. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-20 04:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise would be to refuse to go to him when he tells you to meet him some where. I've been there and done that and it never ends well. Men will only use you in that way if you allow them to. You have to stand up for yourself and say no. When a guy I was talking to called me it was usually for one thing and I gave in. I liked having his company and at that time it did not matter to me that all we did was have sex. I was wrong for what I did, and I don't know if that's what's happening between you and your "boyfriend" but if it is you have to STOP. You can't let a man use you like that you have to develop some self-esteem and learn how to be happy BY YOURSELF. I know how it feels to be lonely and feel like you need someone around in order to be happy but you don't. You must learn how to be alone and find other things to do with your time other than running after a man who, from the sounds of it, doesn't really care to much about you. The next time he calls and asks you to meet up with him, tell him you are busy and then tell him when you are next available. You have to take the reins in this relationship. If he refuses then you have your answer: he's a loser and he does not deserve you. Take care.
2006-09-21 17:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a match made in HELL! One's too clingy, the other uses that for his own convenience.
My advise: Run for the hills! "He's your boyfriend and has the "right" to meet you when he needs you." What a selfish crock of sh*t. Get away from this guy because it's only gonna get worse. And while you're at it, get some self-respect. You should never be a "convenience" for anyone.
Good luck with that.
2006-09-20 04:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by michaelks63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will feel more like his shoulder to lean on friend rather than his girlfriend. A relationship is based in being there on good and bad times not when you are only needed to be leaned on. I think you are better off being friends and find someone who would love to be with you.
2006-09-20 04:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Preciosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs some time away from the ones they love, but if he's always calling the shots and deciding when he wants to see you, then that's not cool and should talk to him about it. If he doesn't listen, then you maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with him....
2006-09-20 04:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by cutest_kittykat_411 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the problem is maturity and also planning ahead. everybody needs time to do there own thing.try not to smother a person but at the same time,take the time synchronize your schedules so as to fit yourselves into each others lives.
2006-09-20 04:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by jmartin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are a "right" to be with when he want's. You have rights also but if he doesn't want to be with only you then he must be spending time with someone else so dump him and find some one else that wants to be with you because they want to,not because it's a right.
2006-09-20 04:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-09-20 04:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because you are not feeling the true happiness in life when the person you are with doesn't like to be with you. That person will just go farther from you if you force him/her to accompany you even if it's your happiness to be with that person. Try to understand his/her situation so he/she could feel comfort when he/she is with you.So that situation will go better.
2006-09-20 04:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by u thought u know who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen only you know what that's all about if you feel he's just being him and that's how he is with everybody(Friends) then you shouldn't have nothing to worry about other than the fact are you willing to be with some one who only cares about their needs, now to me he sounds selfish and you should be with some one who wants you just as much you want them.
2006-09-20 04:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by GiGi V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋