II met my boyfriend during his breakup with his ex. We have been together for 3+ years, and he has cheated on me several times with her, but says he loves ME? But also tells his ex he loves Her? WHy is he still with me? and not her?
2006-09-20 03:54:15 · 40 answers · asked by mw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is cheating - get rid of him. Tell him good-bye! It doesn't matter if he still loves her or not, DUMP HIM!
2006-09-20 03:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love either of you. He's in it for the sex I'm sorry to say.
Any man who truly loves a woman does not cheat on her.
Dump him, and get on with you're life as hard as it sounds.
My ex cheated on me several times. Every time he'd come crawling back, tell me it was an accident and the last time, and that he loves me. But it was never the last time, and after 4years we split. For a while I was alone, and sad, but then I met my current boyfriend, who is so loving and kind I cant believe I put up with so much sh*t from the other one.
Trust me dear, leave him. Don't set an ultimatum, cause he wont keep it, leave him, and let him get on with his ex.
2006-09-20 04:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anria A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to dump him. If he cheated before he will do it again. If he truly loved you then he would have never done it the first time. Would you ever cheat on him? The answer is no because you love him and you don't want anyone but him. Guys feel the same way when they are truly in love with someone. Now he probably loves you but he is not in love with you anymore. You don't need that in your life. And if he is sleeping with his ex how do you know he is not sleeping with other people too. I know it will be hard for you to leave him but that is really your only choice.
2006-09-20 03:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have not put your foot down and are unconsciously "accepting" his cheating behaviors. Why should he leave when he can get the best of both worlds with you. he has stability and a constant girlfriend in you and a booty call on the side. Get rid of this *** clown; he obviously has no idea how to treat a woman. My prediction, if you dump him, he'll come back and tell you he's changed and through. Don't do it, because he'll be cheating again in a year. BE done with him and find a guy that knows how you need to be treated.
2006-09-20 03:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. If I told you I would watch your purse while you went to the ladies room and went through it when your gone and took some money..... what's the difference between that and your cheating boyfriend? Nothing. I said I would watch your purse but my actions proved otherwise. Your boyfriend says he loves you but he goes back to his ex and tells her the same thing and cheats on you. As much as you probably don't want to hear it but you probably NEED to hear it- dump him. He's trying to have the best of both worlds and evidently isn't deserving!
Good luck and hope things get better for you soon.
2006-09-20 04:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he really loved you he wouldn't even think of cheating on you. I don't know you but you deserve better than that. Why should you share your love for him with some other girl. Find someone better because I'm sure that it is someone out there that will treat you the way you are suppose to be treated. With love and respect.
2006-09-20 03:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by shy_isha18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation in my marriage. My ex kept going back to his ex girlfriend (from his High School days) til finally I said enough is enough. And that's what you need to decide to do. He's with you because you keep letting him be with her. The problem with her is she only wants him when she wants him. So that will always cause problems between you and him. You will have to tell him he needs to make a final choice and if he can't then you will need to. Good luck.
2006-09-20 03:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something between the two of them that may be love. I am sorry that you were caught up in this mess. I think that he does not know what he wants and he is getting the "best" of both worlds. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
2006-09-20 03:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you still with him and he's cheating on you with her yes if he's telling her it he does you need to leave him the longer you stay with him the more he will cheat and if he loved you he wouldn't cheat on you over and over again so tell him stop the bull what you think will happen if you and him was to get married he will cheat even more and keep doing it because he no you will no leave him
2006-09-20 04:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he does not love her ... he just banging her ... maybe he loves her vagina but that is completely different.
If you still want to be with him just tell him to use a condom when he is with that chick, or do a three way with her and him and then ask which one of you two girls would he like to keep .... but he probably just pick both of you and ask for more three ways
otherwise start finding someone new ...
2006-09-20 03:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still with you because you let him. He's still with her because she let's him. He'll keep being with both of you as long as you let him. He's got the perfect world. Good thing you "love" him enough to give him everything he wants. Why would he do things any different if he doesn't have to. Dump him, girl, and move on. Meet someone who wants your world to be perfect also.
2006-09-20 03:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋