I need to know who pays what? Does the bride and groom pay for everything or is it still the brides mother and father pay for the ceremony and the grooms parents pay for the reception? Im getting married May 2007 and Im only going to have about 15 of my friends and family there. The other 100 guest will be his friends and family so I think his parents should pay for the reception to feed all those folks, its their family.
2006-09-20 03:44:02 · 26 answers · asked by bbwg_hbic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I definately believe that if your future in-laws are causing excess espenses that they should pay for them. My husband and I made our guest list ourselves, then ran it by our parents to see if there was anyone very important that we forgot (grandma?). Anyway, what happened was that we split the wedding costs into thirds, which was representative of our list, 1/3 for our friends, 1/3 my family and 1/3 his family. However, I also think that you need to have a budget and stick to it so that everyone responsible for paying a portion of the wedding knows what that portion will be far enough in advance so that they can save for it. Best wishes!
2006-09-20 04:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by bluearia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. The bride's family pays for the ceremony AND reception. The groom's family pays only for the rehearsal dinner (night before wedding). Unless the groom's family offers to pay more.
2006-09-20 15:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys talked about how you were paying for the wedding? Did your parents say they were paying for it, are they really that traditional? Those are the things to definitely find out if you don't know. My husband and I were both from single parent homes so asking parents to pay for anything was out of the question. If you two decide to pay for it yourselves there are ways to have a big extravegant wedding without going into debt. We had over 200 guest and spent less than 10k for the ceremony and the reception---- and we had it all fountains, dj, decorations, beautiful cake. Don't let anyone tell you to spend 20k and up thats ridiculous. That also included our honeymoon in Cancun all inclusive 7days! And another bit of advise from one bride to another, I thought I was always going to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding dress, after that big day ended I'm so glad that I didn't. I actually spent less than $200 getting it from the ebridal store on ebay Everyone thought my dress was much much more than that. But they custom make it for you and they do a great job. I hope that prepares you more for your big day! Good luck and Congrats!
2006-09-20 14:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the grooms family does NOT pay for the reception. Of course, people can do whatever they want. Now many couples pay for their own weddings. It can really be done however you want. If your parents want to pay for the wedding, then they set the rules. They can limit each side to 20 guests. You and your fiance or your parents do not have to pay for his parents to invite numerous family friends and relatives. I really cannot believe anyone has 100 close friends and relatives. If you want a small intimate wedding, then say so and stick to it.
Good luck on your upcoming wedding, don't let these little details ruin your big day.
2006-09-20 11:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, although who really follows it anymore, the Bride's family takes care of the whole check.
However, you have a good point. 100 out of 115 guests are his side. So either he can reduce his list to 15 as well, or your parents can pay for your 15 and he can handle the outrageous bill. Many times nowadays, the couple pays for their own wedding; I'd just talk to your fiance and his parents, tell them what you think.
2006-09-20 11:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by twowords 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on financial situations the following is customary.
The bride's family pays for the wedding and reception
The groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner the bride's bouquet.
Now no one can be forced to pay for anything, so nicely discuss this. You cannot demand his family pay because they will attend. That is entirely the wrong attitued to have.
2006-09-20 15:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is typical for the brides family to pay for the wedding and reception, and the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon! It depends on if the parents are willing to do that though!
2006-09-20 10:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, all that has gone out the window (and your examples are wrong, anyways). Since most women and men are out on their own and working, they are paying for their own weddings. Work it out between you and your man who is covering what, and if either or both of your families want to kick something in, consider that a bonus. About the guest list, when both of your families met, you should have ensured that everything was more equal!
2006-09-20 14:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL- not in this life time. Both the bride and groom pay for thier own wedding.... I would talk to your husband to be about it.....
But either way your family should not be paying for it.
2006-09-20 14:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally speaking, the bride's parents pay for everything but the reception and the honeymoon. However, most things aren't traditional anymore, so I would expect to pay for everything yourself, unless the parental units have indicated otherwise.
2006-09-20 12:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋