I have a problem. i really like this guy. He likes me. But the problem though is someone that I have been searching for about 3 years just found me. I duno what to do. The "older" guy that found me, has also been searching for me for a long time. But I think that I am fallen in love with my new one. I duno what to do. Should I follow my old flame, or go with the new. They both would treat me right! The new one is a little more stable as far as I know! Please Help
2006-09-20 03:41:05 · 19 answers · asked by c_dilleynlancaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls and guys only? Does this mean that dogs and cats need not answer?
As to your question...date both. You do not have to be "in love" with either. Be up front about it though, and don't make any promises to either of them. You might find out that neither one is right for you, in which case you can dump both and start over.
2006-09-20 03:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to go where you heart takes you. IF you feel more strongly for the new one then go with him. I would still be friends with my old flame. Its a tough one because you don't want to always be asking yourself what if. Try to hold off for a little while and spend time with both of them so that you know where your heart truly is. Try not to make a split decision. And if you still want to be with the newer one then go for it. But don't push the other one out of your life. There is nothing wrong with being friends.
2006-09-20 10:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chile you have to make a choice between the two only you can make this decision. Just put them both on pause and take some time out to really think about which one meets your needs better.
2006-09-20 10:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok set down make a list of all the good and then a list of all the bad in them and then take a long look at it.and decide the one that will take care of you best .but I think if you really search your heart you will know .
2006-09-20 10:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love either of the two men, or you wouldn't be having this problem. If you really are conflicted, spend time with both to get to know them well, or be commited to one of them!
2006-09-20 10:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your mind and pray about it. We are talking about love here,you need to pick the best
2006-09-20 11:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Dutchie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither are your boyfriend then you are not obligated to either one. Go on dates with both until you are sure which one you want.
2006-09-20 11:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whos got the most cash and the biggest welll ok. also who do you think is going to make you happier, me personaly i say do em both and tell em to go home forget dateing cause it only ends in tragety. but yeah what ever you want is what you should do
2006-09-20 10:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce the two gentlemen and tell them you want to work it out with both of them.
2006-09-20 10:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention stability--the best predictor of someones future behavior is their past behavior--if stability was a concern, it probably still is.
2006-09-20 10:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by connie_mspt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋