ex.i'm in the library this weekend and this little kid about 3 is screaming and the mother dosent even leave 4 other people sake she just keeps telling him 2 quiet down which he dosent do.
2006-09-20 03:35:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm with you on that one. my example: I worked a really annoying long day at work and I wanted to reward myself with some nice
retail therapy, so I'm at the mall and i walk into H&M and I'm having fun combing through the racks looking for a new outfit
and my moment of solitude is violently interrupted by some fat
smelly nasty little kid who is SCREAMING about nothing, while
his equally nasty looking mother shops in total oblivion, I know this is easy to say cuz i dont have kids, but I also dont HAVE kids
b/c im too high strung/immature to want them.
2006-09-20 04:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several reasons:
One reason is that people are more concerned these days with being a friend to their children rather than an authoritative parent, so they attempt to negotiate with their kids and plead with them to do what they want instead of making them.
Additionally, since the local authorities have started intervening, many parents are terrified to discipline their kids in public for fear of getting in trouble.
Personally, I've found that you can avoid all of that if you start disciplining your kids at a very very young age. By discipline, I don't mean punishing. If your kids know you are serious and you stick to your punishments (groundings, taking away privileges, sticking them in an empty room, etc.) you won't have many problems when they get a little bit older. They have to absolutely for sure that you are the boss and that they can't get around that.
2006-09-20 10:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by CE S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's because we're damned if we do, and we're damned if we don't. I've been in situations where I've been "reprimanded" by other people for "not disiplining" my kids in public. I actually had a stranger tell me she was "concerned with the way I was acting towards my child," because I put my 2 yr old, who was kicking, screaming, and hitting, in his stroller so we could than leave the mall, so his behavior wouldn't disrupt anyone. Apparently putting a toddler who is throwing a fit in a stroller (instead of beating him!) and leaving the mall is child abuse! I've also gotten repremanded from people when I choose to discipline my kids in public. If I talk to my kids and tell them to strighten out, or *god forbid* I raise my voice or swat their butts, then I get people who are "concerned" over my discipline choices. It's gotten to the point that I'm afraid to look at my kids crosseyed, for fear someone will think I might be abusing my children!
2006-09-20 15:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by LizzieDawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An example of poor parenting skills. You cannot know how many places the kid had been taken thru the day, if he missed his nap or not- etc- ALL not the kids fault. That is all mommy there.
Spanking is NOT against the law. You CAN SPANK your children- yes- even in public!!! NO you will not go to jail. You will get a few dirty looks- but oh well- it's your child. You are raising them- I wish parents would stop being such wussies. One group of people I have noticed does not have kids who act like hellions in public- I can guarantee they get a swat when they act up- and the kids KNOW it.
2006-09-20 11:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and time people are afraid to discipline their children. Their afraid of people thinking their abusing them. This routine Carries over to the home and they react to their children in the same way. Parents need to take back their homes and be the parent and not try to be a best friend to their kids. Kids need love and discipline. With out both ingredients we are going to raise out of control, spoiled brats that no one want to be around. If I acted like that in public when I was a child I would get my bottom spanked and I'm a perfectly normal adult. We as parents need to get back to the basics. Are children are our future.
2006-09-20 10:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people are afraid to discipline anymore....because people have become way too p.c. these days. if you spank a kid for being bad, people call the police on you and all of a sudden, you're abusing your child. there's a big difference between discipline and abuse.
just my personal opinion, but I think that's why kids/teenagers are so much more obnoxious then when I was a kid. if I was bad, I got spanked (not beaten), and I knew I deserved it because I did something wrong!
people have got to loosen up and learn how to make their kids behave these days...a little swat on the butt now and then isn't going to hurt them.
2006-09-20 14:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can control their kids but refuse to do so. They are selfcentered, they lack parenting skills, and sometimes they really believe their little darling can do no wrong. These out of control kids will be the ones someday ruling the world! I have to say tho in some cases like when you are training your kids to behave they are going to be disruptive until they learn and we have to understand that. But you can tell when parents are in training or just negligant.
2006-09-20 11:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does not mean that she can't control her child. It could mean that the child wanted something that he/she could not have at the time. Also the mother may have needed to be in the library for research, schooling or any other reason.
I have learned that if the situation I am in is uncomfortable for me and is not changing, I will move.
2006-09-20 11:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by adiahudo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids will be kids. You can't scream at them and treat them like they are adults and expect them to act like adults.Yes, the mother should have left as a punishment. But it's not the kids fault. He just needs a little dicipline that's all. He thinks he can get away with it and not get punished and it obviously worked.
2006-09-20 10:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by ☼Earthbound Misfit☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who let children run wild are extremely disrespectful.
I would have told the librarian to remove them and if that didn't work I would go about trying to scare the kids acting like a crazy woman.
The crazy woman thing works by the way. People don't like their kids to be near crazies. HAHAHAHAHA!
2006-09-20 11:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋