2006-09-20 03:28:53 · 19 answers · asked by cedeno_anthony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no, if you're cheating on her, you aren't ready for a COMMITED relationship. You need to grow up some more...sow your wild oats or whatever, then maybe you could think about a serious relationship.
2006-09-20 08:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to clarify how and why you cheated...if it was a drunken, sloppy stupid thing you regret (like something you did on your bachelor party for example) and found meaningless, by all means marry your girl and depending on what you think her reaction will be you tell her or don't. Some women are more forgiving than others, so think twice before deciding and be aware that if you do tell her and she forgives you, trusting you fully again will take time, and you will have to live with jealousy and mistrust for a while.
On the other hand if you were fully conscious of what you were doing when you cheated, then don't marry the girl, she doesn't deserve this, she doesn't deserve having a husband who didn't respect her and the commitment you had for thirty minutes of pleasure.
The fact that you are asking makes me think you are a bit guilty about what you did, which means you might be sorry after all....
If you are sure that this is something you won't be doing EVER again, not even if temptation is too great then make amends and compromise.
2006-09-20 13:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, but I think a better question is- Is she still willing to marry you?
Confess-Tell your fiance what happened, when, etc. Let her know your feelings about what you did. Tell her how you feel toward her, what you want your life together to be like. Tell her what you are willing to do to change, to regain her trust, to prove yourself to her.
Finally, tell her that you understand if she wants to break off the engagement.
If she'll still take you and you REALLY are going to commit to her, be faithful, go ahead and get married.
My husband sowed quite a few wild oats before we met. He got tested for STD's and was given a clean bill of health. Since we met, he hasn't "strayed," so I saw no need to dump him- it did take a while to digest that info, though!!
We've now been married almost 7 years!
2006-09-20 10:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your fiance and then not get married.... you really need to ask yourself why you are getting married in the first place if you are cheating on your fiance. He must not be the one for you if you are being unfaithful.
I am getting married in less than 2 months and the thought of cheating has never and will never cross my mind. My fiance fullfills my every need mentally and physically.
2006-09-20 10:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by plantmd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you tell her you've been cheating she won't marry you. Then it's all settled.
I really don't understand men like you: If you want to play, then play. Don't drag someone into your life you doesn't deserve to be disrespected. Just Stay Single and leave her alone.
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2006-09-20 11:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by twowords 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're stupid to be asking this question...
why the heck are you cheating if you want to marry her? obviously youre not ready for commitment! Get a life first before you think about getting on with someone else!
2006-09-20 10:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Proud Army Wife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the more important question is, should she marry you?
you have to think about why you cheated and if you really love her enough to marry her and stay committed to her ONLY. you also need to tell her about it and let her decide if she still wants to marry you. it's the only way to build a lasting relationship built on love and trust - if that's really what you want.
2006-09-20 10:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do people even get married? Obviously, you don't want to be. Did you ask her because you miss your mommy and want someone to take care of you? Aw, poor baby:(
2006-09-20 10:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by cindy l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. If you aren't willing to be faithful now, you sure as hell won't be after you get married, so do her a favor and call it off.
2006-09-20 10:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Pundit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided you finished sowing your wild oats and are ready for one woman, then yes, get married
2006-09-20 10:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋