I really don’t know what I did wrong?? What I think it is, because I won’t move in with him when he ask me I said k in about 6 month I didn’t say yea I will move in right know. But I don’t get it I told him that I have to finish my school before I can move in with you, I didn’t say I am not going to live with you??? And when I call to explain it to him he doesn’t want to answer the phone and I was going to go to see him and I ask him were he was? He got angry because he taught I was trying to control him. I ask him were is our relationship going to go from here?? He didn’t give me an answer and I am the kind of person that likes to talk about it right away, I want to know but he just ignoring me not breaking up or I don’t know what is going on.
And you guys always answer my Questions and you guys make me feel better about my self I just want to say thank you. But I need your help I need you to tell me what I should do step by step?? A-TO B. what I was thinking was to just ignore him and wait for him to call me. But it so hard I cant concentrate I am just thinking about him I cant think about other stuff what is wrong with me please help me.
2006-09-20 03:12:11 · 11 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First take a deep breath. You are not the first person to have to deal with the same issue like this and won't be the last. Now lets take a step back here and think. Does he know you want to move in with him later? Does he know you love him? Does he love you? I think you need to sit down with and tell him these things striaght from the heart. It sounds like both of you are reading too much into each other. Next lets take a look at his actions. For this little thing he went way out to left field. Imagine how he may react to more serious issuses! Your boyfriend shunning you out is unhealthy. Things need to be worked out and even if you disagree a line of communication must always be present. If you love him go after him but be mindful that you don't give to the relationship more than what you receive. As for other "stuff" keep your personal life away from work. One thing that employeers hate is employees who bring their personal problems to work. Because then it becomes the companies problem and when that happens there is only limited options and trust me they don't make your life any better. This situation probably won't be fixed in a day just like it didn't start in a day.
2006-09-20 03:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than 50% of couples who live together before marriage end up apart either through just moving out or divorce later on
The guy is obviously controlling if he is angry that you won't move in with him right now right this second. You need to reevaluate this relationship and realize you have a warning sign of abuse and control. This is your life don't you dare let anyone take you off course and pressure you!
Why Some Researchers Believe Couples Who Live Together Are at a Greater Risk for Divorce
They may be more accepting of divorce.
They may be less committed to marriage.
They may have married for the wrong reason, e.g., pressure from family or having a child together.
They may think they know all there is to know about marriage already.
They may have too high expectations of married life and get disillusioned early in their marriage.
They often have poor conflict resolution skills.
They may not be able to handle financial decisions together.
Reasons Couples Decide to Live Together
Economic or practical reasons.
Concerns about a long-term commitment.
Fear of divorce.
Convenience.
To give the relationship a trial run before marriage.
Lack of faith in marriage as an institution.
Escape from family home.
Compromise with partner who doesn't want to be married.
Companionship.
Questions to Ask Yourselves Before Living Together
Why do you want to live together?
Are you aware of the possible higher risk factors for divorce for cohabiting couples?
Why don't you want to get married at this time?
Are you aware of the legal aspects of living together?
Have you considered having a cohabitation agreement?
2006-09-20 03:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is the one trying to control you! He is using manipulative tactics to get what he wants! Obviously for reasons of your own, you are not ready to move in with him and if he cares about you, he will understand those reasons! Those are signs of a mentally abusive relationship, maybe it is best to forget it and move on if he isn't willing to undergo some counseling for his own control issues!
2006-09-20 03:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by trinitarianwiccan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i wanna know if you really love this guy, have u been 2gether long?do you know him very well?
sounds to me he's used to getting what he wants and since things didn't go as he expected he's just being a jerk.
it's understandable if he's upset like you've rejected him or something, what's not understandable is he seems to not understand that you've got priorities. he can't seem to get that he's rather just 2nd to yourself,if trying to talk to him is proving difficult then don't just wait i guess, for him to figure it out or for him to cool down. don't wait long though make him Understand..good luck
2006-09-20 03:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Katrine Nyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right.. you need to ignore him... till he's ready to miss you.. right now you're not letting him.. you're chasing him.. so he feels good about himself, but you're looking like a loser.
you need to back off.. and get busy at the gym or go out with friends, etc etc.. wait for him to call.. coz if u dont, he will never care... so you need to decide whether you want him or not...
if you want him, leave him be.. if you want him to get rid of you, keep calling
2006-09-20 03:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you perfectly know what you should do! You simply (?) doesn't feel the power in you. Yes wait, till you feel you're really important for him and than be opened to others.
2006-09-20 03:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by alinkele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you did anything wrong. The best thing to do is to just let him have some time to himself to think. If your relationship is strong you will make it through this.
2006-09-20 03:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish up with him and repeat to yourself. IT IS WHAT IT IS right?, Because we can't control things but we can transform the things we do.
cheers darlin
2006-09-20 03:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questioner has to ascertain for themselves precise and incorrect.,. imagine about it... if we had the ability to mark incorrect... then what would quit someone from wrongly marking a precise answer incorrect...
2016-10-16 01:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should finish up with this guy, he sounds very immature and manipulative..........
2006-09-20 03:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋