2006-09-20 03:00:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a good idea. great idea
2006-09-20 05:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the children first. Explain to them that you love each other and want to be a family. You would like their input on the other person. Make sure the kids know the other parent and children. Then bring up the subject of living together before marriage. Let them know that you are only trying to give everybody a chance to get to know each other before you make it permanent. Talk to your own children separately, then all together so that both sets know that they are not loosing a parent, but gaining another adult in their lives with siblings.
You need to be honest and upfront to the kids, and supportive to their feelings, they should be accepting of it before you move in. The decision will affect them as well as you. If both sets of children were OK with the idea, then move in. I think it's a great idea to live together before marriage to know for sure that it will work. You can learn more in one day living together that you can in dating for a month.
2006-09-20 03:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not just live together. It sets the seed of well if does work I can just leave well Marriage is not just simply living together it is work so if you set out on this path you need to have the right armor on starting with a right mind set that you will do what ever to to make the marriage work. A football player does not play foot ball with out gear , a solider does not go in to battle with out his gear on. So getting married first sets that mind set, and you have put on your gear to do it right. Also shows to yourself that you want to make it work. You are a single parent this sends a message to your kids that you are doing the right thing.
2006-09-20 06:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by that guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very touchy question. I have lived with my boyfriend for a year now. It was rocky in the begining but now we know what to expect from each other and has kind of prepared us for marriage. It's just finacially right now we can't afford it.
Some people are not going to agree with your decision. His parents hate it. But I needed it. I have seen everyone in my family get married and divorced and sometimes twice by the time they are my age. I don't want to rush into anything and it's tougher for you b/c you both have children.
If it's in your heart to move in together before marriage I am all for it.
2006-09-20 03:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. Do our ancestors have a wedding or a celebration called marriage in those few decades ago? No right?
In modern world, we accept the wedding or marriage as a union of a man and a woman. This is just a social relation for public. It's a decleration only. The real truth is the intimate between you and your partner.
So. Once you have sex, you are in marriage. So LT is also same.
2006-09-20 03:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by AAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a personl decision that only the two of you can make, however, since there are children involved, you need to take them into consideration! Single parents often bring people into and out of their children's lives without looking at what happens to their children, please make them a part of your decision and do what is best for their interest as well as your own! Children are not mature enough to handle a lot of changes in relationships, keep that in mind!
2006-09-20 03:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by trinitarianwiccan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. how deeply in love are you both? if you're not sure then don't. living together is not the answer. is it are you willing to commit all the way? Marriage is commitment. it's suppose to be forever.
2006-09-20 03:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do the marriage thing first. This is the moral thing to do. Remember that our children pattern their lives after us since we are their role models. Trust me, if your partner can get the milk free, why buy the cow?
2006-09-20 03:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by clar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the best thing you can do..for you guys and the kids... you'll have the chance to know him well and your kids too. so if dosn't work out both of won't have to go through difforce which is so difficult for kids too... However I'm happy for you guys and I hope both of you will work it out so greatly .. If I were u I'll do it ..
2006-09-20 03:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Dark angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling before to work out any issues. I would be very careful because if things don't work out - the kids get the worst of it
2006-09-20 03:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be living in sin. And sending your kids the wrong message. Where are your morals?
2006-09-20 03:02:59 · answer #11 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋