2006-09-20 02:54:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends.. There is name calling that can be ignored and the offending parties give up when they don't get a reaction and there is harassment - where someone is continually targeted by bullying behavior. A trip to the school staff is in order to get to the bottom of things.
If it is name calling, as hard as it is..sometimes parents have to step back and let their kids handle things on their own. If it is bullying/harassment, it needs to stop and be stopped by adults.
2006-09-20 03:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by slwilson1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has ot be a truely painful moment as a parent.I feel for both you and your son.I would tell your son you support him 100 % no matter what.Let him know you still love him and show him that those group of gusy who a harrassing him are losers and show hi others are watching him and seeing how GROWN UP he is for standing firm behind his believes in himself.
At the same time , I would tell him a single person can only take so much before the ysnap , it wouldnot be a bad thing to voice his anger at the guys BUT before it grew to a point where he wanted more actions taken that he can coem talk to you and you can find a creative way for him to get his anger out.Such as Karate classes - Boxing - hockey football.Something that allows him to transfer his anger to a good thing and allows him to also show case his hidden talents.I dont care what he gets into JUST support him and let him know you care and the DOOR is open anytime he needs to vent or just talk.
other Kids that see this will soon get bored of those clowns and your son will have NEW RESPECT from otehrs with the way he dealt with this issue.
Teach him how to deal with this issue i n apositive light and not turn it into a Columbine school tragedy.Then you will have tought your son life does some harsh things but thew way you handle it makes you the BETTER PERSON.
2006-09-20 03:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go straight to the school. Insist on talking to the Principal and superintendent. Make it very clear to them that you will hold them responsible for these boys actions, sence this is happening at school. Threaten with a lawsuit if you have to. If you don't feel you son's feelings or yours are being met, take it even further, go to a school board meeting.
Don't STOP! Your sons feelings are very important!
( even if your son happened to be gay, it's against school policy for harrassment of any kind).
Good Luck
2006-09-20 03:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 12 year old was getting bullied by a group of kids and what I did was contact the school and asked them to contact the parents of the children that were harassing my child. Then when it still didn't stop I requested a conference with the children and the parents.... once face to face the bulling stopped and the kids all began Friends. I hope this works for you, cause there is nothing more hurtful to a mothers heart then watching her child go through pain and humiliation. Good luck I hope this helps.
2006-09-20 03:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say that it doesn't matter if he's gay or not. The reason he's being picked on is because these "bullies" see your son as inferior. If your son had more self assurance and carried himself with confidence, the others may back off a bit. Have you thought about some type of martial arts or a sport of some sort? Being involved with his peers could help with his confidence. I hope this is helpful.
2006-09-20 03:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing you would do if they called him the "N" word or the "J" word or any other derogatory remark and that is just what they are doing.
The administration is required to ensure the safety of all the students, regardless of their sexual orientation. One Kentucky School system was fined $300,000+ because they did nothing.
Tolerance is something the school must teach, we all must work with others and have to tolerate them (i know i tolerate the winners in my office).
Contact the Gay straight alliance network, it may be in the school already, some are listed on the web site for CA. www.gsanetwork.org
2006-09-22 08:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by dillon Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would contact the principal. Have him/her set up a meeting with the parents of the other child and myself. The kids would all be outside and available for comment if needed. I would point out the dangers of bullies. Make sure that the parents understand that allowing or encouraging bad behavior in their children may have potentially harmful backfires. I would make such a fuss that they would have no choice but to acknowledge my feelings and the welfare of my son.
Then I would make sure my son knew how to stand up for himself. There is a time to walk away, and a time to stand up for himself. I would also make sure he knew a little about self-defense in case it ever came to that. He shouldn't start a fight, but he should get beat up either. If he can take care of himself, maybe the other boys will leave him alone.
2006-09-20 03:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to notify the school, and if nothing is done then you go to the administration. and further if necessary. do not let it rest, and if your son has a phone, then he can take a picture and record it for proof, that is even better, do not let them know, they are being recorded. I am so glade that you have a good relationship with your son, that he can open up and share what he is experiencing, I wish him a more peaceful, school year!!
2006-09-20 03:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the first thing is to take an aggressive action toward the school administration for help,if none is given go to school board meeting and bring up subject of "bullying"!let them know you are not above bringing legal action against school for non compliance of law.by aggressive action I mean contact principal,teacher or teachers,see if there is more witness's and others who are harassed or involved? there is no reason any child ahould endure problems when an answer is available in this day and age!
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2016-10-15 05:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋