What can I do? I don't want to look back on our wedding photos and be really resentful and annoyed I didn't have vintage cars and instead just had ordinary modern day sedans... I don't know what to do. everyone around me, family, friends and fiance have convinced me it's not worth the extra expense but I think it is.
I start to feel jealous that other brides get what they want and their fiance/parents/whoever don't even blink an eye at hiring 3 vintage cars for between $1000-2000. I only want ONE car, costing around $400-600.
What can I do?
Just give up...
Get it any way and piss everyone off? esp since our parents are paying a portion of the wedding...
I don't know and I'm stressing..
Please SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. I don't have any patience for smart alecs who aren't even that funny.
2006-09-20 02:49:47 · 17 answers · asked by hapfut 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Although it may seem like an important part of the day today, in five years time other memories of that special day will mean more.
However...if you are set on it, perhaps pay for it yourself. If all expenses are being shared, try not to let this one thing be a deal-breaker and hurt good relationships with family, you will find eventually that it just isn't worth it.
2006-09-20 02:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by slwilson1966 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to find a way to pay for it yourself. It's something you want, it's your day, so ignore the comments of others. You can't expect them to pay for everything however, so you should come up with the money yourself. Since it's not that much, you shouldn't have a hard time saving $400-600. Ask your fiance to help out, maybe go half-and-half that way you would only need $200-300 max each.
If you can't afford the extra cost, then don't expect them to foot the bill. Anyway, you said your parents are paying for a portion of the wedding, but not the whole thing. They are already being generous in helping out, so don't push it too far or they may decide in anger to not contribute at all.
You have to decide what's more important, the car or good relations with the parents if it comes down to it. A sedan won't be the end of the world when you are getting everything else you want. I know it sounds harsh, but most brides don't get everything they want either. Everybody makes some sacrifices to get what is most important to them. It just seems like they got everything when you see them that happy on their wedding day. They are happy they got married, not because of the little details like a car or cake. And you will be happy too, with or without a vintage car.
Good Luck!
2006-09-20 03:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. as a professional wedding consultant I can give you this advice....
Budgeting your wedding carefully is important. You don't want to start off your new marriage drowning in debt. That said, can you work it into your budget? If your parents won't pay for it can you or your fiance? It sounds like it is important to you. Are you willing to scrimp on something else so you can have the car?
Other options:
Do you know anyone who has a vintage car?
Do you know anyone who knows anyone who has one?
Have you gone to any vintage car shows and talked to any of the car owners about the possibility of them helping you out for a few hours at a lesser cost? Maybe it could be there just for the photos?
Because your parents are helping to pay for the wedding you should take their feelings into consideration. So if you really want the car - talk reasonably to your parents and your fiance. Tell them you will pay for it yourself, explain how important it is to you that you're willing to work some overtime, or get a part time job for a week or two to pay for it.
Just keep in mind, what's most important is that you end up married at the end of the day, not that you arrived in a nice car.
2006-09-20 03:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by family_matters 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd get it. I would tell people that this is your wedding. You're only (hopefully) going to get married once, and it's supposto be the most special day of your life.. if all you really want is the car, then show them that it means alot to you by chosing some other things for your wedding that are less expensive. Chose a cheaper cake, a cheaper dress.. etc..
Perhaps they're saying that it's too expensive because it doesn't match the rest of your wedding style. If you're having a small wedding and reception, it wouldn't match, and It might not look nice in there.
If someone else is paying for the wedding and all the accessories that you want, then you're going to have to be respectful of their wishes to not want to pay more for an expensive car.
If you're paying for it, then get what you want. But you have to remember.. it's not about the car, the flowers, the dress, the cake.. it's about the day that you're going to say yes to spending the rest of your life with someone.. I think in the midst of the material things that you're forgetting that.
2006-09-20 02:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybee you have a friend that has an old car that might let you borrow it for the day. I dont know but I dont know if I would spend a whole bunch of money on a wedding becuase its only one day and you have forever to be with that person and you might need the money for something else like a house or a car or to take care of the kids things like that. You should just be thankfull that you can even afford to have a wedding at all. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and we have a 19 month old and we cant even afford a wedding at all we have house payments and things like that. I dont think that having a vintage car at youre wedding should be such a big deal just be thankfull that you actualy can afford a wedding.
2006-09-20 03:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for the vintage if you have your heart set on it.... maybe compromise with your parents that they pay something else in your wedding and that you pay for the car instead... I really wanted vintage for my wedding (got married 02/09/06) but then my brother's girlfriend got pregnant and basically stole 3 quarters of my wedding ideas (they got married 08/10/05), so I scrapped the vintage cars and instead I asked everyone I know whose just bought brand new cars, luckily we found enough brand new cars and they were mostly Toyota's which added to the specialness of them... But you must go with your heart because at the end of the day you are the only person who will look back on it....
2006-09-20 03:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your big day. Do what you want. If you can afford to have a vintage car- have one! Most of the time getting married is a once in a lifetime deal. Why stand on the sidelines and let someone else plan it for you and make decisions? Do what you want. Everyone that gets mad at you will get over it!
2006-09-20 03:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by elliemae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are old enough to be getting married, you are old enough to have a say in what happens at your own wedding. you didn't mention how the groom feels about this. the fact that the parents are pitching in does make a difference. if you can find an affordable car to rent, and you pay for it specifically, they might not be so upset. good luck. sounds like a fun idea!
2006-09-20 03:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Curious in Seattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be an embossing memory for your day! But if your parent are against it... a little expense for you, my dear. But it's what you want and it's your day! DO IT!!!
My first marriage was supposed to have a horse and sleigh/buggy (depending on the weather in the end of Nov. in Wisc.) but my parents said NO! I regretted it. So this time(my 2nd) we were married someplace special..I made sure of it! It was on a pier overlooking the Carribean Ocean in Jamaica.
Make it special and like the answerer said...maybe there is a kind older gentleman in your neighborhood, that would be honored to make your day special, as he shows off his pride and joy! Good Luck to you's!
2006-09-20 02:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it pay for it yourself. If it upsets everyone that's a risk you're going to have to take. Honestly though in the long run is the car really that important if it means starting your marriage off on the wrong foot.
2006-09-20 03:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by LJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋