I am a christian, but i'd like to know do you think its right for parents that go to church or engage in religions where the females can't wear pants and stuff like that and the boys can't play sports to make their children adhere to those policies? Personally I think you don't let the kids express themselves and this may result in low self esteem amd may also cause them to turn away from religion when they grow older.
2006-09-20 02:44:26 · 17 answers · asked by madtyga2002 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it is the parents right to raise their children in whatever faith they choose, in my opinion, they should guide you until you are able to make an informed intelligent decision regarding religion, morals scruples and common sense. until you are able to do this on your own it is their responsibility to do this for you.
2006-09-20 02:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Chico 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes - the kids grow up with low esteem and full of resentment. As for turning away from religion and God - absolutely.
I also have found that the kids don't have much follow thru in their lives either. It's hard to find the will for achievement.
I have also found that being damned if you don't belong to the religion as a major detriment too. People do horrible things to the self and others when one is convinced one is damned for not participating.
2006-09-20 03:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says for children to obey their parents, for this is right. Our job is to be obedient even though some of the rules are a little out there--Our parents have to answer to God for the way they raise us--and the Bible also says to raise a child in the way they should go and they will never depart from it. As for the girls wearing pants and the no sports thing---I think that's a little much. I'm not going to hell because I wear pants and I'm certainly not going to hell if I've got game. Just obey the Word and obey your parents. Maybe you could pray that the Lord will help them to be a little more gracious and to maybe start thinking like a teenager.
2006-09-20 02:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the duty of parents is to teach their children to become members of the Culture and Society they belong to. when their children grow up the process is continued as each generation is taught the laws rules and mores of the Culture and Society. certainly Culture and Society change over a period of time and when children grow up to the point where they are old enough to decide for themselves what is right and wrong they must do what they think best. this is where the changes in the laws rules and mores come in allowing the Culture and Society to change and continue growing rather than stagnating and dying.
2006-09-20 02:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religious beliefs generally define the values of a home. Parents who follow the teachings of a certain religion believe its truth are proper guides for life. Therefore, they teach the values of their religion to their children.
Children follow the teachings and values taught by their parents for many years. However, at some point, they begin to question and challenge the values of their parents and of their religion. It's a natural by product of maturity.
After investigation, they make conclusions about the values of their parents and the teaching, tradition and beliefs promoted by their religion. Sometimes their religion is rejected, sometimes it is embraced.
The appropriate age for this discovery process differs for each individual. But every good parent should know the maturity level of their children; that's when they are allowed to express their own views on religion and life truths.
2006-09-20 02:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce Frazier 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents didn't force their beliefs on me and allowed me to make the decision when I was older as to what religion I wanted to follow. I chose none of them, but there is a lot of reasoning behind that and it's a whole other story. I think if I were forced to go to church as a child, given all of the things I've been through, I would just resent it and my parents for making me go.
2006-09-20 02:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kris B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are correct. That is what happened to me. My parents were Pastor and principal of the christian school they also stuck me in. I was so O.D.'d on religion, it made my mind nauseated from it. I am now an atheist. I'm raiseing my son to make up his own mind about reality and his place in it. He is 12 and is pretty sure he is an atheist too, all on his own. I've let him go to church with his grandparents on several occasions, and he knows that he is free to believe what they believe if he chooses. I'm glad he is smart enough to make up his own mind to not believe already.
2006-09-20 02:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's ok, and these "religions" tear families apart as well when the child eventually "rebels", (they call it rebelling, its just being a human, which is what everyone does). It definitely causes the person to disbelieve the religion when the person is wise enough to make their own decisions.
2006-09-20 02:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by corazon_muy_dulce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a parents' job to teach their children about GOD. Now as far as religions are concerned, well that is a different story. I was raised baptist, but now I strictly go by what the Bible says. I allow my children to express themselves appropriately, but first and foremost they will know GOD and why we are here. Religions seem to get off track when it comes to the bible. So, I avoid them all together.
2006-09-20 02:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents should raise their children as they see fit as long as it is within a socially acceptible frame. They should however allow the child to chose what to do when they reach adulthood.
2006-09-20 03:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 16 year old son hasn't yet chosen his path. He visits churches with friends who are trying to convert him and so far he hasn't found anything that speaks to him.
I was raised in a christian church but have been a practicing pagan for years (as long as he can remember, anyway) so he gets that side of the issue from me.
I have always wanted him to choose what is right for him. Next week we will be visiting a UU church to see what they have to offer.
Peace.
2006-09-20 02:51:16 · answer #11 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋