help me. i love someone
2006-09-20 02:25:47 · 64 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing wrong with loving someone before you are maried...just dont have sex before you are maried...
2006-09-20 02:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by ET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong to love someone before marriage????????? what the heck,,i hope u makin a mistake and u just didn't type that question right,,gotta be,,,well if it is right,,,lol,,,,i would want to love someone before i get marriage and i would want 2 make for sure its love,,,y would u wanna get into a marriage if its not love,,girl i'm sorry but this would be the only time i would tell u not 2 listen 2 ur parents,,,i think i know what the problem is,,ur parents must be older like born in the 1920's r something right,,gotta be
2006-09-20 02:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid to say I agree with your parents. If you love someone else then you are not ready to get married. You have to postpone the wedding. I know it will be difficult but it's the only thing to do. it's not fair to the groom. Are you sure you are in love with this other person or do you just have cold feet? If you are sure then you must tell the groom you are not ready and want to postpone the wedding. It's better than going through a marriage you don't want to be in. Good Luck!
2006-09-20 02:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by winter715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not wrong to love someone before marriage that is the most ridiculous thing i ever heard. Since when have we had control over our feelings of love? Emotions are not run like a tap we can not turn them on and off tho we would some times like to im sure
2006-09-20 02:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are crazy. They are just telling you that to make sure that they keep you out of trouble. I think what they really want to tell you is that sex before marriage is wrong. That is what the bible says anyway. I am going to hell for sinning. Anyway, it is ok to be in love but be careful who you give that extra love to. You cannot help who you love and your parents cannot stop you from loving either. Parents do not know that the more they tell us not to do something the more pron we are to doing it.
Just take it slow though. And make sure it is really love and not infactuation.
How the h@&* can you wait untill you are married to be in love?
Do they listen to the things they tell us? Boy!
2006-09-20 02:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be in the interpretation. I would hope that two people would be in love with each other BEFORE they get married.
What your parents may be telling you is that two people should be married before they have SEX.
In some instances the words LOVE & SEX are interchangeable.
For example the phrase "Making Love" usually means having sex.
You sound to be a fairly young person, & I hope that you will have fallen in love many times before you find the one you want to marry.
Go back to your parents & see if they can be more honest & specific for you on this subject.
2006-09-20 02:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be love before 2 people can even think of marriage. Unless you are talking about pre-marital sex then that is another story. I dont feel there is anything wrong with loving someone before marriage...
2006-09-20 02:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Trish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean loving someone or having sex with someone?
I know that many people feel you should wait to have sex before marriage, but I think it is stupid to marry someone without loving them. So, what do they want you to do? Do they expect you to meet someone and just accept marriage without loving them?
I have to assume they are talking about sex. If that is the case, then they are only trying to keep you respectable and pure.
2006-09-20 02:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not allowed to fall in love before marriage? what is this an arranged marriage for ya?
OF course you should fall in love b4 marriage, you just shouldnt make love b4 marriage. thats the difference. Save yourself for you wedding night.
2006-09-20 02:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to Love someone before marriage.
2006-09-20 10:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by Abhijat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the case with most of the parents.....
so with my parents ! they think that we fall in love just 4 the sake of it they dont think of the feeling s involved...they r correct in all parents view afterall , they did everythin for us n the only thing they xpected from us was our marriage with the guy/gal they choose. so accordin to them they r right n if u view things from their angle then thats correct.
but if u r in love , i suppose parents must understand the feelins involved(n they rarely do !), so at the end of the day u r in soup??
so it depends on ur mind right now..
think 1.whether u can marry him against their wishes
2.does he wish to marry u?
3. can u both have a good life together?
4. can u make ur parents understand after the marriage or can u leave without ur parents??
if ur answers are all positive then go ahead else take some time n analyze...n u'll get ur answer.
Best Of Luck!
May God Bless You !!
2006-09-20 05:12:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋