Many of you Christians say we can't judge, but if you found your husband in bed with another woman?

Question

Wouldn't you judge them?

I would tell them to go to hell and to get out of my sight.

And I'm Christian.

I think I would be right to juge too in those circumstances.

Answer 1

I think that people get confused between "judging" and "having an opinion".

You probably have the opinion that your wife is dishonest, a traitor, and any number of bad words. Probably the same for the dude.

That is okay.

I think that judging would be generalizing that to others than your wife (when many cheat with the permission and encouragement of their husbands-- you never know the whole story and often guys aren't very honest about being into that sort of thing).

So think what you want of your wife.
Forgive her.
Move on.
Don't hold that grudge (I know you want to) and don't think she is a "bad" or "evil" person (that is judging)...but let her know the natural consequences of betraying your trust...

Answer 2

I have found many Christians to be some of the first to judge someone. But than again we are all human. If they were to find their husband in bed with another woman. They would probably seek help to save their marriage, and if that didn't work, they are free to divorce.

Answer 3

As a Christian, I make judgements all day. When to cross the street. The freshness of one deli market over another.

Under that circumstance or a similar one, it's human nature to voice a statement of judgement. It's Christian to forgive

Answer 4

The Bible says "judge not, lest you be judged".

It would not happen in my life as my husband and I are both committed to God and our love for each other. For 37 years thus far.

Why think of something as terrible as this anyway? Think positive daily and your life will be positive.

THIS is the day the Lord hath made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!

I do hope this has not happened to you.

Answer 5

What does judgment have to do with bad behavior. The teachings do not allow for a man or woman to be with another if they are married. This is typical of someone who has no knowledge of Christianity.

Answer 6

First of all, christians don't tell people to go to hell. GOD sends them there. Secondly, my ex-husband did cheat on me. I prayed to GOD and got the answer I needed and therefore, I didn't have to judge him or her. If you truely have a strong faith in GOD, then you will give it to GOD. I don't have to get angry and hateful because someone did something wrong to me. I pray for GOD to give me strength, courage, wisdom, and the ability to handle situations that come up. So far, GOD has always kept me safe. Why should we judge when that's what GOD does? GOD bless you.

Answer 7

and i don't think you would be wrong in doing so...i would do the same if not worse...i may be tempted to knife her...lol..jk...it's adultery...so it is wrong in Gods eyes...and you have the right to divorce him if he does/did this to you....i think the judging thing pertains more to like the way someone dresses, the way they may think...things they do that you wouldn't do...your not to judge them...just like it isn't wise to judge a book by it's cover...start reading it and it may be the best book ever....get to know a person and they may be the best person you ever got to know. hope that kinda helps ya. deff throw the man out the window if he cheats on ya!

Answer 8

You would be judging the person as a husband, not as an overall human being.

Answer 9

Read your New Testament. We are not the judge of hearts but we can judge actions.

Answer 10

I believe we are to judge... not for condemnation. We are to point out sin in others life, to help them in their walk.

When we judge, then we'll be judged with the same harshness. Read 1 Cor. about the man sinning with his step mother.