There is a girl at work that I really like and we are very good friends but I would like to become more than good friends but she is well out of my league in my opinion and I don't want to ask her in case it makes things awkward so what should I do?
2006-09-20 02:14:49 · 25 answers · asked by Master Chief 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think she is "well out of your league" then take a little time to boost yourself closer to her league. Maybe a fashion makeover...get a good friend to help you buy some new clothes, go to a stylist for a new hair cut, polish yourself up a little. Doing so will increase your confidence.
Maybe she'll notice the new improvements and maybe not, but you'll feel better about yourself.
Without making it awkward, you can say to her at a comfortable time that you really enjoy talking to her and you feel lucky to have a friend at work. Then just be honest and say that you don't want to make things between the two of you "bad" because you really value the friendship, but you wonder if she might consider going on a date to see if you might be compatible as potentially more than just buds.
She can always laugh it off nicely and say something like "I don't think that would work and I don't want to ruin it either." Or she might be freaked out a little...in which case you just be honest again saying, "Look, I didn't want it to be this way. Please just be my friiend and let's forget I was insane enough to think we might try a date."
Then go out and find another woman. That willhelp ot take your mind off the lady at work.
2006-09-20 02:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to go hang out and see how she reacts from there. If that goes well then you should ask her on a date. And if you start something with someone thinking they're out of your league, then you're just setting yourself up to fail, because you'll always feel that way. So stop thinking that! It's probably all in your head anyway.
2006-09-20 09:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by vs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should ask her out.Just because u thinks your out of her league doesnt mean she thinks so. You need to think better of yourself. And you have heard that opposites attract...that goes for you to. Just ask her to go out to lunch or something and she what she says....The only thing she can say is no. Then if thats he case you will remain friends. good luck
2006-09-20 09:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever ask her out until you feel that you are "in her league." With a negative self image your relationship is doomed from the start anyway. Date others you feel are "in your league" and get counseling.
2006-09-20 09:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you can get along with her please go ahead. Your perception abt what she thinks are likley to be baseless as you never know hat a girl thinks abt a guy or anything for that matter. you have nothing to loose in case you ask. You will definately loose if you do not ask her. SO GO AHEAD AND TRY YOUR LUCK
2006-09-20 09:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Abhijit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you work with her and work place romances or a big no no and could land you a lot of trouble so i never date in the work place seen to many bad situations happen, so be careful.
2006-09-20 09:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man you only have one life to live! if she likes you and you see signs of that, then go for it, but do it in the right way, like take her out to eat or something like that, bring flowers to work and sit them on her desk or whatever. make it known to her that you like her. If you have true relationship then this is the next step, all relatioships show be built around friendship and it seems like yall have done that, now take it to the next level!
2006-09-20 09:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and try your luck by telling her that you would like to be more than friends with her. She can either say yes or no but in the end at least you tried.
2006-09-20 09:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admire from a distance and look elsewhere. The work romance thing can be dicey. If you go there it will never be the same no matter what her answer might be. Ask her if she has any cute friends you can date.
2006-09-20 09:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by anabanana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing ventured nothing gained. that means you wont know what happens until you try, and if you dont ask her out you might lose her to someone else. go for it whats the worst that could happen that she says no, but you can continue being friends.
2006-09-20 09:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋