Another thread about smacking children?

Question

Used to work with people with all kinds of problems and - quite rightly - I would have been prosecuted if I had ever harmed them in anyway because they were in my care as are the children of all the parents in the world. What does it teach a child - If you are big enough and strong enough your will can prevail, but is that love? Think it through people, if you lash out only thing that can result is harm and damage and has anyone ever put out a fire by throwing more fuel on it?

Answer 1

I agree it can add fuel. don't know how relevant this is but, I was caned many times as a child, it didn't make me a better child, however I was always good for some people. I had more respect for a voice of reason, even when I was too young too really understand the words, I understood the tone and the tone of disappointment, that hurt me much more than violence.

Answer 2

OK, I have to disagree with you. As a child I got spankings. Didn't do anything but shock the heck out of me, it doesn't hurt. Not unless too much force was used or an object (belt, fly swatter, switch). Well knowing that I was spanked as a child as well as my 8 brothers and sisters and we are all fine today and hold no harsh feelings towards our parents, I would have to say that spanking isn't as bad as some are trying to say. I use it as a last resort in my home, but I tell ya what. When your son/daughter is going right for a stove that is on high and you have told them no 500 times, wouldn't you rather pop their bottom than just say no again and let them get burned. Yes I have the power in my house, I know that, my children know that but I don't have to use a spanking to get that power. You know being popped on the bottom has been around for many many centuries, why is it now all of a sudden such a bad thing? I know people have different opinions about it and I can accept that. I would love to hear a real argument on it though, not just opinions on it. If you never spank yours, how do you know if it works or not? I can tell you from personal experience as a child and a mother that it works.

Answer 3

Me personally I feel there is a difference in hitting your child out of anger and giving them a swift pat on the bottom. I do how ever feel that you should use that as a last result if nothing else is working. There are certain instances that a child should get a spanking. When I was lil my mother spanked me, and I turned out fine. I am a well rounded person because of it. Its not harming your child if you pat them on the butt. I'm not saying smacking them hard, just enough to let them know you mean business.

Answer 4

Once again there is a big difference between angrily lashing out at a child wildly and vehemently and controlled spankings, done with love, understanding and communication on the buttocks as a form of discipline. My children were spanked when they deliberately disobeyed rules. They knew the consequences going into it and did it anyway. As they grew older the spankings became less and more painful discipline came into play such as removal of friends and phone time(I had more tears from doing this than I ever did from a spanking) No parent who loves their child enjoys spanking. If they do they are doing it for the wrong reasons. But a parent who truly loves their child will spank their butt in order to protect them from harming themselves again in the future. Spanking is not used for every wrong doing either but if your 3 or 4yr old child suddenly pulls his/her hand out of your hand and runs into a busy street, how will you prevent him from ever doing this action again. Talk to him? Take a toy away? Send him to a time out chair? No this is a far to serious action that needs to be dealt with a serious punishment. One or two hard smacks on his butt will make him realize this was no ordinary mistake this was indeed something he/she never want to repeat. Notice I said one or two hard smacks on the butt. Not 10, 15, 20, nor is it on the legs or back or face. I have 4 children raised to Adulthood in this manner and they have manners and are responsible people they take care of their belongings and respect their neighbors and their parents. Unlike many of their school friends whose parents were the "lets talk about why you shouldn't run in the street" type and their children are in jail or still living with them at the age of 25yrs. or have so much debt and claiming bankruptcy or sueing neighbors for stepping on their lawn. I will raise my grandchildren the very same way. There is a big difference between hurting and harming a person and teaching in a loving way that is remembered. A child is different from and adult, you cannot compare the two. An adult can learn through reading, hurting themself, or watching others get hurt doing something. Children do not have this wisdom to fall back on. They have not been alive long enough nor do they have the comprehension for all the dangers in this world. We are their protectors and we must do what is necessary to keep them protected.

Answer 5

My nephew had problems on the bus last year the bus driver was always having to pull over and correct him, he would yell, curse out the window at people, and run up & down the ailses. We had repeated talks with the school,bus driver & other children n the bus. I talked and punished with every possible civil approach as I could. Final outcome: 2 swats with the belt on that butt and all is fine, no more proplems. Only as a last resort would I spank a child.

Answer 6

I think that smacking a child to tell them off is right, my parents smacked me and there is nothing wrong with me, on the other hand my neighbours didnt smack their child but just tried to punish him in other ways, and he is so out of control they dont know what to do.....

If a child wants to touch a hot cooker and you tell him no, and try and punish him when he tries to touch it, but he still goes back to touch it then a light smack it what you can do...only use it as a last resort but the kid will realise that if he does want to touch the hot cooker he will get a smack....this way the kid knows that the hot cooker is not something he wants to touch.

Answer 7

I don't have a problem with a smack on the bottom, and I don't think that's what you're referring to. I thik out right beating a child with ot without an object (belt, wooden spoon, etc.) is wrong. A quick swat on the bottom or slap on the hand is appropriate however.

Answer 8

There's a big difference between violent beatings and an attention-grabbing smack to the buns. Children should not be violently beaten or pinched, but they should be spanked from time to time. A wooden spoon does the trick because it stings but does not damage and can be applied lightly. It gets the child's attention, shows them who is in charge, and teaches them to mind. This is sorely lacking in a society full of rampant brats today!!! Spank away, people!!!

Answer 9

Truely, I think that you should never put your hands on another person in anger. However, with your children, sometimes, you have to get their attention after repeated verbal & time out warnings. I have found that a smack on the butt works. This can not be done in anger though. You need to be totally in control of your emotions so you do not hurt the child, just so that they finally listen to you & know your serious.

Answer 10

I dont agree with smacking children. Just because you dont like the way children are behaving, does not make it bad.

If someone in work was behaving in a way you didnt like, you wouldnt just walk up to them and give them a slap round the back of the head would you?