me and my ex are still talking on the phone. he did not treat me with respect and gave me the kind of love that i deserved. he was a jackass and he knows it. so why does he call me and when i cant help it i call him. im a really kind person and i hate to burn bridges but i know this guy is not going to change after 2 years. i give other people advise to move on and leave bad relationships but i cant completely leave this guy. even if i know he is no good. i try and keep busy and try and meet new people but it always draw back to him when im bored or down or weak. one day i say to hell with him and im glad its over then the next day i say well ill just call to say hi and make him think im fine by changing my atttitude to make him think im doing fine and happy. dont get me wrong i truely know that this guy is not going to change but for some stupid reason i keep calling him. what am i a crash dummy or something. why do i keep going back for more bad sessions. knowing he wont change.help
2006-09-20 01:26:16 · 11 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your problem is that you are still in love with him, even though you know that he would hurt you again, over and over, and thus you question if that pain might be worth it, just to be with him. You thus fantasize about him, as a changed person, and you won't let any other guy come between that fantasy of him and you; for how can anyone measure up to a fantasy?
2006-09-20 01:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason many women stay in abusive relationships is that their partner has worn them down and they no longer have any self respect they feel that this person is who they deserve and all they will get in life.. If I were you I would look into some therapy and talk it out with someone other than your ex you know that things are not going to improve you stated this so my advice would be talk to someone such as a counsellor or therapist and you will find yourself needing this guy less and less
2006-09-20 01:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over! Wise up! Move on with your life and find yourself a better man who would treat you with the love and respect you deserve. You and I both know you can do a whole lot better than that fool! People here may agree with me. Am I right?
2006-09-20 01:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love him and even though he is your ex-lover he will forever be a good friend. I know from recent experience my ex and I just ended after 6 years and even though I know I don't want a relationship I still call and he calls me because we're best friends and that will never change. We actually get along much better as friends.
Good Luck
2006-09-20 01:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by LovetoLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you confused a friendship wit a relationship.
from the sound of things you too could be good friends but since you have a history that should have never been there in the first place.... you keep looking at what you have a non existant relationship point of view instead of jus accepting that you are friends.... at whatever level the friendship is at.
my advise it at all they is a physical connection it be removed jus concetrate on the friendship.
2006-09-20 01:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by what???? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's totally wrong for you then I think you should do your best to move on, if you said you have tried, then I think you should try harder cause obviously that isn't helping......Try something else, when you feel "bored or down or weak," that's when you should find something to do quickly before you see yourself calling him......Sometimes it's not easy to forget, but we have to try our best to do so......Or maybe you could be friends with him, but if you still have feelings for him, I say DON'T try to be his friend or anything, cause when we have feelings for someone we get blind and trust me saying you're his friend would be lying to yourself cause you know that you have other kind of feelings....Good Luck
2006-09-20 01:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do u have still feelings for him??incase u do,even when it is just a little ,then that might be it..sometimes its just very hard to let go on somebody even when u know he will never change..your heart thinks and tells u different things then your mind does.. and i know that really su***
2006-09-20 01:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wise up and move on, calling him isn't part of that process so stop doing that.
2006-09-20 01:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is good. It shows that you are both good people.
As long as you are only talking and not something else...
If you know what i mean.
2006-09-20 01:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y'all can still be friends, right?
2006-09-20 01:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋