Should smacking your child be banned?

Question

It's in all the papers today...I personally (depending on the child in question) don't think the ODD smack leg does any harm..to use it often or as a way of venting your own anger isn't a good thing...Some children need a good sharp smack to bring them into line, With the attitude of kids today, it should be used more, and in the schools too!

Answer 1

well it is not a free world anymore.
i got a smack on my *ss when i was a child and in no way was i ever abused. they take this crap way to far. there is a difference between a spanking and a beating.
i dont beat my children cause i was spanked, its all bull$hit these days

Answer 2

Sadly, I think there's A LOT of kids that could use more than just a smack on the legs. Maybe if their parents would've smacked when they were little, they would be more respectful of society today & it's rules. My parents were extremely strict. We got spanked hard with a belt with metal rings in it. I see that belt in their closet now & it gives me chills. I think they way overdid the spanking thing, so I'm trying to be less aggressive and more open to discipline through talking (or if I'm really mad- yelling), then if that doesn't work, I'll resort the next time she does the same thing within 5 minutes, to a smack on the butt. But I only use my hand because if it hurts me, then I'm spanking to hard. My hope is that if I get her under control now, and she knows that mommy is serious, that she will follow directions better when she's a teen. Hopefully, her subconcious will be afraid of crossing me, even if her brain (and her mouth) is not.

Answer 3

No, smacking should not be banned. It is a parenting tool among others, and probably the best one available for dangerous behaviour or willful disobedience.
In our family, spanking is a rare occurrence, but is by no means out of question, and my daughters know this very well. There are no substituite for spanking, with three spirited young daughters close in age (2,4,6 years)
. I don't have regrets or guilt feelings when I smack: on the contrary, it clears the air and good feelings are soon restored, IF THE PARENT IS CONSISTENT AND FAIR ENOUGH

Answer 4

i think a child needs some discipline a smack on the leg is not abuse if a child get out of line thay need it it should not be done in anger and it should fit the crime so to speak . i also think that is what is wrong with the kids of today if you try to tell the kids in my neighborhood not to mess with your property thay tell you to go suck a egg [in essence] i think it was better when if you got caught doing some thing wrong the person that caught you tanned your hide [verbally] then when you got home you mom already know what happened and you got a good tanning at home and you took it with out a word and god help you if you messed up in school !!!!!! don't mean abuse i mean if you messed up you knew it my mom only tanned my hide 3 times then give my the look i did not want to get that any more so i just didn't mess up [much] my kids know the look

Answer 5

Spare the rod, spoil the child. . .

A child should be given lots of love, there is no doubt about it. But sometimes, a child will get out of hand and a spank is good for them to set them in place. Children need to be taught discipline. That goes back to the beginning of time. A spank, not a beating. There is a difference.

But I agree with Perrisgal in the above poster by setting restrictions. This is a more effective approach.

Answer 6

I can not tell you how to disipline your child, but I do not think that slapping the child really is as effective as restrictions for things they like, such as no computer, no tv , no phone privilages. I think that slapping is more to vent our anger , I did smack my children when they were younger and it did not help and I always felt bad for it. I thought it was the way to punish as that was what I was taught by my parents, as they did it to me. I stopped using that for of punishment and started using restrictions and they hated it. The hard part about it is following through with the restrictions and not making them so outragous that you had a hard time sticking to it yourself. I have my two young grandchildren living with me and I gave my grandson three choices of punishment and let him choose the one he wanted. 1. No computer, 2. No video games 3. Go to bed and hour early. at first he said he did not like any of those choices , but he took going to bed an hour early. I am consistant so they pretty much know that I mean business. If he is out playing he knows the time he is to be inside and if he is late, he knows the next day he can not play outside, he knows he is responsible to make sure he knows what time it is, so he is in on time. I am not right to the minute, with in reason. They also know that I love them .

Answer 7

I personally agree with spankings, if and only if it fits the crime and you aren't doing so in a fit of anger. And I think the schools never should have taken the strap out of school, which made all of my school fear going to the principals and we did everything in our power to NOT have to go due to the fear of the strap. Now kids are killing kids, more disrespectful little ones running around, and none seem to have a care in the world except to say the word "mine, mine, mine, mine" and "no, no, no, no". More discipline is needed and less bending over backwards for children who have no respect for anything, parents / teachers / grandparents / or themselves.

Time-outs are useless form of discipline and didn't work on either of my 2 kids. My children are now 14 and 11 and in all total I have given 5 spankings to both together in their lives. Not too bad in the long run.

My personal fav was to talk to them about their behaviour and ask them what their punishment should be. They'd give me whatever they thought was "reasonable" and if they didn't follow through on their own discipline, then they also got yardwork (mowing, raking leaves......nothing too hard), dish duty, or cleaning the bathroom. lol. Not all 3 together, just one or the other. Anyway, this always seemed to work for my kids and I'm not assuming it would for everyone.

Answer 8

some people may feel smacking their child's a good way of keepin them on the right track - but i don't think venting out your anger on them by hurtin them physically is the right thing to do. it won't solve a problem - it'll worsen it. the child might feel like - well, they smack me and i'll do it again. kids these days are kinda rude and stuff - maybe they're not headin in the right path, but smacking surely isn't a good idea of bringing them into line.

Answer 9

I mean I was never a difficult child, but I got my occasional spanking in school... it's the most humiliating thing to go through. And it's precisely for that reason that I behaved! Nowadays with litigations about child molestation and the like, it makes no sense even allowing spanking in school, but if things were now how they used to be when I was a child, I'd definitely let my children be spanked in school/

Answer 10

In the old days parents were allowed 2 hit their kids & kids respected their parents they learned a lesson in todays society they tell the kids parents aren't suppose 2 hit U then they take the kids away which isn't right kids make up lies most of the times.I agree parents should be able 2 control their kids & who knows if it was allowed we'd have alot of kids that weren't as bad as they are now out of control.Who would need meds none of them a good old fashion spanking doesn't hurt no one.But here in Ct your allowed 2 hit your kids now as long as you don't leave a mark omg like we would you know..But yes I Agree