I strongly believe this guy was interested in me 2 years ago but due to the circumstances we cud not be together. Now i still cannnot forget him. Deep inside there is a voice that keeps pulling me towards him. What shud i do? shud I go back and ask him out? If yes, how? We have never communicated well! Just met 4- 5 times and that too professionally!
2006-09-20 01:11:28 · 17 answers · asked by Mooch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do not know him at all! we never interacted well! so it is not a romantic fantasy at all!
2006-09-20 01:40:14 · update #1
He had asked me out but i said no. He wanted my home no. and i said no.
2006-09-20 02:58:27 · update #2
I say try talking to him, ask him to hang out and take it from there.........If he doesn't want to hang out with you, then don't worry, at least you tried and you won't wonder all the time what would of happened.....Everything has a risk in life, and we just have to put ourselves out there in order to be noticed by the people we care about!! Good Luck
2006-09-20 01:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should either move on, or if you feel strongly about this, then ask him out for coffee.
2 years is a long time. Most crushes last about 3 months (the initial interest, the "spark" and the attraction stage), but then after that if nothing happens, it probably won't happen.
What evidence do you have that this guy was interested in you? Think about it carefully. Keep in mind that it was 2 years ago. He may not even feel the same way anymore.
I went through the same thing a few years ago when I was interested in a man who was a bit older than me. But we couldn't do anything that would breach professional and moral ethics. So I never did anything though it was clear between us that we "had something going". We had great conversations together. I felt like I really did love this guy and that he loved me back, despite the circumstances which barred us. Or so I thought.
Later, when I still thought about him even a year later, I thought more about the things that made me think he liked me. I realised that they could be translated in another way than how I had interpreted his words and expressions. He could have just been very charming and nice, as men can be, without actually being interested romantically. And I knew him fairly well, spoke to him often.
When I met him again after that at a social function, I found he was more friendly in a polite way than anything else intimate.
The point is, even with people you DO know well and actually speak with on a regular basis, you still can't expect to really know that person. The same with this guy you obviously have a crush on. You say you have only met him 4-5 times? It's not enough. You obviously don't know this person well enough to really be in love with him! Listen to yourself! "We have never communicated well!" What makes you think you will suddenly, as if by magic, come up with all the right words? It's not like that, hon.
IF you do still want to meet up with him, ask him out for coffee if you'd like to "catch up" with him, just have a quick chat. If he is nice about it and says yes, then he may just be curious.
Ask yourself what do you expect? A friendship? Because a relationship may be a bit unrealistic (no matter how good-looking he is or you both are). What is it you want to say to him? Gain his respect first.
You can always try but don't keep your expectations high.
2006-09-20 02:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Satinette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a one sided interest. He hasn't made any attempt to asks you out on a social date it would not be a good step for you to think there is anything more. If you 'go back and ask him out' you will only come away with disappointment. You can't start from where you left of, because there was nothing to go back on. 4 or 5 times of professional meeting is nothing serious to go on. Your recollection of what might have been could be distorted by time.
Curiosity kills the cat. Since you are hearing voices telling you to have a relatioinship with him. You can just bite the bullet and ask him out then deal with the consequences there after.
I say go and ask him out for a movie and dinner to find out for yourself if there was anything good from him. If it is bad then walk away with your head high, and tell yourself he doesn't deserve me and there is someone else better.
2006-09-20 01:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its, great if u like him but always remember 1 thing when u like some 1 dont just love him for his popularity or i say his looks and ur just in love thats just the pass of time thats
what i use to do when i was in sweet 16 now i am 18 and a lot of girls said me this fashionly used word (i love u) so just look for his behaviour with u with others try to know how kind he is how nice he is from his heart if he is good like this wy then u must go back and ask him out
good luck
2006-09-20 01:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by HULK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For 2 years you have been mulling over someone whom you could not be together with?
Why don't you just contact him and see the response from him? Then your agony of wondering will be over? You can then take it from there.
2006-09-20 01:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him out. BUt don't be disappointed if he hasn't been pining for you for years. This sounds like an obsession, so don't set your expectations high. But instead of dreaming about this guy (and shutting out any other good prospects) ask him out and see what happens.
2006-09-20 01:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're meeting one of your gal friends for a drink after work and ask him to join you. Get there before he does. If he shows up, tell him your friend couldn't make it after all. The rest is up to you.
2006-09-20 01:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. BIG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells u, the worst thing that can happen is he say no, but on the other hand he could say yes. u will NEVER know till u ask!
2006-09-20 01:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
call him and ask him out for coffee or drinks.
You could call him and ask him over for casual sex but that may be bad form.
2006-09-20 01:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. You are romanticizing your former relationship. He has certainly moved on in his life , and you should too.
2006-09-20 01:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋