Whats your feeling on stay at home moms?

Question

I am a stay at home mom and have been for about 4 years now. I honestly feel I have worked harder in those 4 years, more so than I ever have. I try hard to do and give the best for my two daughters and husband. Its just sometimes, I get down graded by others (in-laws, and working moms)who thinks I should go back to work. I love staying here with them, and I want to be the one to raise them, not someone else. Is this being selfish or am I doing a good thing?

Answer 1

I would just like to say GOOD FOR YOU!!!! You should not let other people's opinions of your decision deter you from doing the most important job you have ever had to do. You are correct, you have worked harder in those four years. My husband is in the Navy, and I am a SAHM also of three...12, 9, and 8. I haven't worked since 1999, and I have been blessed by the simplest of things. Such as being able to have lunches with them, attend conferences, pick them up when they are sick. Helping them with their homework at night. Things I would not have been able to do with a fulltime job. You are doing a great thing making the decision that your family comes first. I watch too many people give up the chances (first steps, first tooth, first words) and I was one of them back when my only son was born. If I could do it over again, I would have chosen to stay home instead of making that extra dollar. Raise your children to be good, kind and generous. With a mom like you, I am sure that won't be hard :) Everyone is always going to have an opinion on what is right, and what is wrong. That is the thing. All that you can really rely on is what your gut and your heart are telling you, and I am pretty sure you already know the answer. Anyone who feels the need to share what they think, tell them you appreciate their opinion, however, it is yours and your husband decision and in the best interest of your children to have you raise them until you decide otherwise, if you ever decide otherwise. And you would appreciate it if that was the last time they shared such an opinion. Thank you very much, have a nice day. Period. Leave no room for discussion. You are not selfish, and you are doing a good thing. And, if you need some sort of reassurance, just take a look in your daughters eyes. You are their world. I hope that this helped you a little bit. Have a great day, and cherish every moment. They grow up so fast. God bless.

Answer 2

Stay at home moms are great! Personally, I would love to stay at home when I have children. I would not worry about what working moms or your in-laws think. You have a job and that's rasing your children which is not an easy task. Besides that I'm sure you are keeping up the house you live in and much more. I will not pick sides because I believe both stay at home and working mothers have a lot on their hands. However, I dont think you should feel like you are being selfish. You have made a wonderful choice and I think you are blessed to be able to raise your children. Focus on your girls for now dont let other peoples views allow you to miss out on some of the best years of your childrens lives. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I myself am a SAHM for the past 6 years now and I agree when you say you have worked harder than ever. Some people think that we just sit around all day watching soaps and eating bon-bons and that just is not true. When people get on my case for staying home I just tell them that it is my choice and I am greatful that I will not miss the important years of their lives. I get to be here for them, not someone else. The only thing that I miss alot is interacting with other people at work and the extra money that it would bring. Be proud to be a stay at home mom, years from now you will have no regrets and you will have great memories of all the times you spent with your children. The time goes so fast and before you know it they are off on their own.
I wish you all the best!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You are NOT being selfish. I only wish I had the opportunity to stay at home with my girls when they were little. Any one who down grades what you are doing needs to have their head and heart examined by a professional.

I truly do wish that the gap between the working woman and the stay at home Mom would close. When are we going to learn that we need to respect what others do and the choices they make. Just because they are not our choices doesn't make them wrong. There are alot of women out there that CAN'T stay at home because of money. And then of course there are the Moms that work because they want to...and bless them too. We all need to take the time and do what's best for our family and situation.... Have fun at home....:)

Answer 6

I, too, am a stay at home mom. I also get the "oh you don't work?" when people find out. Being a stay at home mom is the HARDEST, MOST FULFILLING job you will ever have.(although at times I know you can feel completely unappreciated) You are doing right by your children. Why pay somebody else to take care of them if you don't have to? The people you pay can never love your children as much as you do. Getting a job doesn't make their lives better, unless you need the extra income to survive. I know some people have to work. I used to be one of them and I hated leaving my kids at daycare everyday. I had excellent daycare too, but I missed them. Even with them starting school, (pre-K and 1st grade), now I get to volunteer at their school and see them during the day and see them interact with their friends and it is just such an awesome feeling to watch them grow.
I say YOU GO GIRL!!!

Answer 7

I think you are doing a great thing..I agree with everything you said! I have been a stay at home mom for about 8 years now. My daughter is 11 and my son is 6..I am so glad I was able to stay with my kids and not send them to a daycare. I am just now going to look for a job since my youngest just started 1st grade. I am hoping I can work while they are in school and be here for them when they are home.

Answer 8

Stick to your guns, girl! I was a stay-at-home mom until my daughters went to school. I took plenty of flack for that too, but it was mine and my husband's decision and we're still happy with the way we did it. The years before they begin school, they need their moms. I figured that I'd raise mine and I'd be the one responsible for the way they turned out...I didn't have kids for someone else to raise. When they're in school, then you can work/go back to school if you feel the need. NO, I certainly don't feel you're being selfish at all, you're being a good mommy! Stand up for what you believe when the bullies start trying to tear you down;)

Answer 9

Not selfish at all, yet look at the big picture, in a few years from now your kids will be in college. Get you an education or some work experience since you have the time. Fit it in. Believe me it will pay off later. Forget what others thinks, you are not concerned. This is your life, your kids, and your husband is happy with it. Don't forget yourself in it all.

Answer 10

I think being a true stay at home Mom involves a lot more work than a 9 to 5 job somewhere... There's tons of things to do... and tons of responsibilities... The best thing about it is that your children benefit greatly from it...