A 6 year old girl that cries a lot.?

Question

I have a 6 year old who is generally well behaved. The past year, she has been crying a lot. For simple things like if I ask her to put her shoes on (and she instead wanted to have something to eat first). She has a younger brother (3 years old). She is also having severe fits, once a week, if i am angry at her. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

maybe, she figures if she cries she will get what she wants. stand firm.

Answer 2

Not all kids are the same, so advice you'd get here is not going to totally help...your child is having crying spurts, and severe fits...I would only suggest to you, to leave the 3 yr old with daddy, or someone you trust for a few, and take her to the park, or for a walk, or for an icecream cone, etc. and talk to her by herself, away from the house...a nice quiet place to just sit down and ask her what is so upsetting that makes her want to cry all the time..Since we don't live with you, the everyday goings on in your home, would take days to explain...Has there been recent visitors, like grandparents, or people with children that she saw behave like that, how are things at school, it could be a number of things, mom and dad are busy, 3 yr old requires way more attention than a 6 yr old, maybe she feels left out a bit, you'll have to just really ask her, and not a 5 second conversation...if there is nothing emotionally wrong, and she is testing her brat abilities, then mom is going to have to set some new rules...some parents let the kids have and do what they want so they can have some peace and quiet, can't blame them, but it doesn't help them prepare for adulthood...which is longer and harder than being taken care of at 6.

Answer 3

Sounds like my brother when he was around that age, except he was much more violent during his fits. I would deffinitely consult a psychologist, or a doctor of some sort, as this could be some form of, like ADD, or something. It seems sever that the change would happen so suddenly which also makes it seem that it is based on internal stimuli and not external (things going on at home etc). The best thing to do is see if you can ask your daughter (since children can be quite honest when they want to be) what is bothering her, and if she refuses to answer simply try complying with what she wants. Then the next best option may be to take her to see someone clinically. They're probably the only ones who will be able to help, even if it isn't something like ADD they may know a good way to resolve the issue

Answer 4

Yours and mine both. I think it's normal for this age, although I just closed my question about having an ornery 6 yr old. I just stick to what I tell her. If I tell her to get her shoes on, she does that before she does anything, if I tell her time out, I sit her down for 6 mins. one minute for every yr they are old. My Ashley is just not ever happy anymore. If I get on to her big sister, some how Ashley will turn it into something about her. Mine is well behaved as long as I am not there. The minute I show up she goes crazy. Good thing is, at least I know that she has learned something from me because of how she acts around other adults. Just stick with what ever it is you tell her to do or your punishment. I don't know any 6 yr old that isn't acting like this right now.

Answer 5

Honestly its difficult to give an educated opinion with so little information. Is there anything else going on in the family? Are you married? Do the children have the same father? Is she having trouble at school? Does she have friends? Does she go to a sitter or afterschool? Since this is relatively recent behavior and you seem concerned I would talk to her teacher and all other people involved and then consult with some kind of therapist to help you sort out the problem, manage your daughter better, and control your anger. I hope this helps Good luck

Answer 6

These episodes are cries for attention, whatever kind she gets. You need to stand firm regarding what you are asking her to do and not give in to the attempt at manipulation. Ignore this type of crying as best as you can, when she sees that it's getting her nowhere, it will eventually stop. Regarding the fits, when she's done, ask her why she behaved like that, then explain to her that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. If it continues, speak with the school counselor or child therapist. Her school can most likely recommend someone to you.

Answer 7

For her, it's not about being good or bad, it's about economics. She's trying to figure out the cost of her behaviors versus the potential benefits, and she learned at some point (who knows how or when!) that this behavior gets her a payoff of some sort. No attention for crying. And don't get angry at her either, or at least, don't let her see it. Shower love and affection on her when she is complying, and speak in short bursts and keep your words to ten or less when she is not. Implement immediate consequences for this behavior that are the same each time (i.e., immediate removal from public areas of the home or when out and about, immediate cessation of all activities in her life until she complies - but no anger, no emotion). She will ultimately learn, after a while, that there are nonnegotiables by which we all must comply, and reward the HECK out of her when she does comply. Remember, demanding obedience from a strong willed child sets both of you up for failure....elicit their cooperation, and reward them for it too.

Answer 8

i think firslty she maY be facing some problem at school which is unable to express . the crying is a symptom to gain attention have you asked her teachers or school mates may be that can be help
another reason can be she is jealous of her younger brother may be she feels he is stealing her part of love and time . She cannot see you getting angry . give her some attention but being politie and firm at the same time is necessarry.
thirdly seeing a doctor/counseller wont be bad idea may be they can help

Answer 9

I feel she is just wanting your attention more as she is going through some kind of growth phase as she is feeling maybe that you don't give her enough attention and that her brother gets too much, and to children even bad attention attention counts, children test their boundaries and your authority all the time the next time she cries when you tell her to do something be firm and tel her no you are not going to get it until you do as you are told and if she keeps it up send her to her room to go cry as it's nothing but a temper tantrum. she is trying to manipulate her into getting what she wants. she needs some kind've consquences to her actions.

Answer 10

Sounds like she may be imitating her younger sibling. Try spending some more one on one "girl time" with her to show her that being a big girl is much more fun than being a baby...Point this fact out to her when the two of you are out. You could say "boy, isn't being a big fun? The baby doesn't get to go out and have big time with mommy" Hopefully this helps, I know it did for my son.

Answer 11

I would actually need more info to diagnose the problem more efficiently...such as your reactions to her fits and such forth...children are easy to be honest, you let them know who makes the rules and spend a decent amount of attention to them and they will be angels. Though my son is only 3 himself, I am majoring in child psych at FSU