I beleive that if you wrap your children in cotton wool and never let them make mistakes that it can be damaging to there self esteem in the future and can lead to them not being able to face problems with courage. just the right amount of love would suffice. does anyone share my opinion?
2006-09-20 00:26:50 · 20 answers · asked by anonymousjo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To a point, yes depending on their age. For example, I don't feel you can spoil a little baby, but a toddler needs to learn. I think you cannot love your children too much, but there is a point where you need to love them enough to let them make and learn form their mistakes.
2006-09-20 00:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference from love and wrapping in cotton wool. To love your child is to allow them to be themselves and to explore the world around them, making them aware of the dangers but giving them the space to make thier own mistakes and even get hurt sometimes, it's how humans learn, from experience.
Loving your child with your whole heart and then some is completely natural and will not 'spoil' you child or make less than they could be. Quite the opposite actually, it make them happy, secure and full of confidence.
2006-09-20 00:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that sometimes I let my toddler do things that I would rather he didn't (eg climb high on the climbing frame etc).
I have to grit my teeth but still encourage him because I know that it will be good for his long term development and self asteem. Too much love leads to overprotectiveness, which inhibits the development of their confidence etc. Its a hard job being a mum, trying to guide and raise little people, when all you really want to do is wrap them up in a blanket and keep them safe from the world...
2006-09-20 00:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree - kids need to explore, learn and grow without suffocation from over protective parents - there's being wary and being paranoid - if you stifle them they will never make their own way in the world or understand how to face challenges or form realtionships. You cant live their lives for them - let them grow up knowing they are supported loved and encouraged - not wrapped in cotton wool and have expectaions that everything in life will be done for them and will be rosy
2006-09-20 04:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by bevflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beleive me there is and in other ways also, so much so that a person can be left gasping for breathe. Of course its about too much love but also love coming from the wrong people at the wrong times. There can be too much love from parents (mothers) towards grown up children or rather married and settled offsprings so that it takes the shape of interference and harrasment or love that makes a partner or spouse overpossesive.
2006-09-20 00:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by pakir poyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is a thing as too much love, but I do agree that you can be over protective of your children, I don't think that this is the same thing. If you love your child surely you want to see them stand on their own two feet and grow and develop and have trials and tribulations. Even though it is painful to see them make mistakes. I think is being over protective, not too much love.
2006-09-20 00:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Amoeba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partially, yes. It strictly depends on the age of the baby. Based on research, you cannot spoil a newly born baby: when they cry or whine, they truly need something. At that age they are yet unable to manipulate you into doing something they might want. The first 6-8 months of baby's life you should provide as much care and affection as you can stand--it creates a strong and essential bond between you and him/her. Later, however, set the boundaries and be determined.
2006-09-20 01:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure!
the best way any child learns is by mistakes!
that's why I hate some of the things society has become. My kids will never learn because they are not allowed, normally because someone somewhere is afraid of getting sued.
A good example is the absence of climbing frames in some schools.
2006-09-20 00:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by PollyPocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is never enough, but do not be blackmailed because you care, children can easily find your soft spot. If you do not show them your love in words and in deeds, someone else will, and it may not be for the same reason as yours. Emotional security, will make them better individuals later on and they will always come back home to you for sanctuary. Caring on loving.
2006-09-20 00:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Masterwho? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 100% right everyone makes mistakes and a child should be able to do the same cause the all point of been a child is been able to play and learn
2006-09-20 01:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by deborahlouiseclarke20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋