Shouldn't there be a way for two people in love to recognize each others interests...?
She is always taking him shopping and he is being forced to give up his basketball tickets and poker games with the guys.
Is this fair?
2006-09-20 00:21:49 · 21 answers · asked by marnefirstinfantry 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships consists of two mutual and equal partners.Both sharing their love , and interests.Find activities that both enjoy and sometimes recognize the others partners interest.It may turn out that they discover they enjoy more things together..Relationships are not dictatorships...
Knicks(hehehe) the fiance and keep the tickets,,,,,,,
2006-09-20 00:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Going out/being engaged/getting married requires both people to understand that not only will they grow together, but each individual person is still just that, an individual with his/her own unique likes and dislikes that requires time apart from one another. You're not an amoeba now that you're together, you are still distinct individuals. Being dragged everywhere is just not fair or respectful. The reason you got together is because of all of the experiences that you had prior to meeting, you each found it fascinating that the other person had such varied interests and likes. If the one person suddenly wants to cut all that out of the other person's life . . . yikes, the relationship is going to sort of just sit there or possibly start to wilt and die.
2006-09-20 07:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd say if they are shopping for their wedding outfits or something equally important, he should give up a ball game or a poker game and come along.
However, if she is doing this to him all the time just to make sure that he has no time with his friends, he needs to grow a backbone and tell her some compromises need to be made.
2006-09-20 07:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why in the world he still with her? If there no recognize each other's interests then, why didn't he say hey, we getting marry soon. we need to fixed this plm..
My wife and I love each other so much but I don't mind going shopping with her. But she don't mind going watch me play basketball. but comes to go to the NFL games or NBA games she didn't want to go and she never made me give up on that for her. We do trust eachother alot and knowing that we love eachother too.
We do spend time together with our kids. Before no kids we do what we like to do. I play basketball with my friend all the time and she do what she want to do.
But he need to tell her stright up and say hey there are my friend I play pokers with and paid for basketball ticket to be with myfriend. and Other things is that you knew what my life is like you might have live with it or end this now.
He does need to tell her that. My wife never tells me can't do that. because I never do that toher too. so almost 9 years married not a plm at all.
2006-09-20 07:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not fair and it is also unacceptable behaviour for any woman who intends to have any kind of serious relationship with a guy. With this gesture she has shown that:
1. She is totally self-centred and arrogant.
2. She is wilfully ignorant of your wishes and needs.
3. She is insensitive and stupid.
4. She is inflexible and headstrong.
If I were you mate, I would take her out somehere quiet and gently explain to her that because of her behaviour you can see its obvious there is no future for you together, she has de-selected herself as a prospective girlfriend / mate / wife because she is too into herself and couldnt give a sh*t about your needs.
Dump her and find someone more flexible. No mercy and no going back.
2006-09-20 07:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is'nt fair,or healthy for a relationship to be living in each other's pockets. Put your foot down and tell her you need some time on your own to appreciate her more when you do see her. I know that men were'nt born to shop and I would hate to drag a guy round the stores with me. Tell her it's boring and to get a friend to go with her. I won't even go shopping with my sis cos she knows what she wants...eventually, and the waiting and hanging around drives me mad. Has your gf given up any of her fave' things for you?
2006-09-20 07:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all, & my G/F does the same to me, makes me go shoppin all the time & I could tell ya if it's her or some stranger at a few feet away, so what help am I to her other then carrieing all the stuff she buys. Not Fair
2006-09-20 07:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way a realathionship can go really far is if you play two on two tennis together
2006-09-20 07:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Cornflakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. It's called "Control Issues", and it can break up the relationship faster than you can say "sorry, but she's not nearly as controlling as you are and that's why I cheated on you".
She needs therapy. Or a stern talking to.
2006-09-20 07:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it's not fair! Get a girl that likes to do the things you like.
2006-09-20 07:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋