how to stop my 3 years old daughter becoming more aggressive?

Question

My daughter is otherwise an intelligent child but to grab attention she would do anything. She has become more demanding now and beats her friends of same age if they don't listen to her, what she says. The frustration some times gets to anger. It causes embarrassment to us as she exhibits her anger on poor friend of hers who is so submissive and well behaved girl. Pls suggest how to get her little less aggressive. Also she doesn't listen to what we say most of the times now, doing only that which is not preferred by us.
Both my daughter and her friend go to preschool everyday together and my daughter wants her friend to do as she wants.

Answer 1

Display the behaviour that you want to see. Don't reward bad behaviour with attention - just reward the good behaviour. Teach her a couple of agression management techniques - lot of info on the net. take her along to some groups or sports that are team based where there is not one obvious leader, but everyone needs to play a part. Finally, watch her food - avoid the additives and sugar. Final, final - make sure she is getting enough rest.

... and above all, remember she is three.

Answer 2

Your daughter is developing bullying tendencies , even though she's very young. She's found someone who submits and doesn't give her a hard time and so she's assumed this is going to work with everyone.

I think you need to talk about empathy and how other people feel or what she'd feel like if someone did that to her.

When she doesn't listen are there consequences, suggest you watch SuperNanny or Nanny911 to get some pointers on this.

In a few ways you've created this little genie getting out of her bottle by not enforcing rules and consequences.

I'd also ask at her pre-school if she is displaying this same kind of behaviour and work together with the pre-school teachers to nip this in the bud.

Answer 3

While she's young, try this.
Smack her on the behind and tell her to mind you or expect another smack. You don't have to hit her hard, just enough to get her attention, and if you've never smacked her behind before, you'll get her attention quickly.
She's controlling the household and she's well aware of the fact!
Do the same to her that she does to her friend and when it upsets her, ask her how she feels and tell her that her friend feels the same way when she treats her like that.
She's getting no repercussions for her bad actions, therefore she thinks it's okay to act like that.
A little smack on the behind now could very well save her a good beating by peers later on in life.
I don't believe in 'beating' a child, but spanking is okay as long it fits with the crime. I don't believe in using weapons, belts flyswatters, for the spanking, only the open hand and only on the behind. I was always told; "Never hit them in the face, God provides a better place."

Answer 4

when she start getting aggressive, kneel down, look into her eyes & say no firmly, be stern but don't shout. do it each time without fail.
don't worry she is going thru that self-will awareness phrase at 3 yrs. mine was around 3 & a half when she she started. her last for about 9 months i think. so, be firm & be consistent. u will cross this hurdle. fun & games! :-)

take care & peace, man

Answer 5

When you see it happening, pull your child behind you, hunker down and ask the other child if they are alright. Then take your child to a corner where she can focus on you and tell her that her behavior (be specific) is not the way to be a good friend.

Then show her how to be a good friend!

Answer 6

You are the parent!! Start acting like one. She sounds like a spoiled little brat used to getting her own way. Toughen up and teach her!!!

Answer 7

You have to show her you are in charge and you don't like that behavior. Be strong, and consistent in your punishments.

Answer 8

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