My dad has a huge chip on his shoulder because I wouldn't work for him and I started my own company up doing the same thing as he, only I have done it better. He is being horrible and trying to put a spanner in the works anyway he can to cause my business problems. I feel like I have no father any more and I don't know what to do..
2006-09-20 00:17:05 · 19 answers · asked by rockin mermaid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmm, what to do? In order to answer this, it would really help if you told us WHY you chose not to work for him. I have a feeling that's very important.
In general, if you want your "old dad" back, you need to talk to the guy. Tell him how you feel: you miss your old relationship, you feel like he's sabotaging your business, and you don't understand why a father would do that. Make sure your tone is hurt and not angry, though.
You don't mention what your company does. Is it possible to somehow merge your businesses - and is that a price you'd be willing to pay? I wouldn't want to be in business with a guy who does what your dad is doing, but then again, I wouldn't want to lose my dad either.
It's very understandable that your dad feels hurt and betrayed, but there's no excuse for sabotaging your efforts. Anyway, good luck sorting this out. It sounds like a nasty situation.
2006-09-20 00:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's shameful to go into competition with your father.You got your grounding in his business,then you show him up by doing it better (so you say).He obviously feels betrayed,& rightly so.If your father is trying to put a spanner in the works,well,that's what business competitors do,so why are you moaning?By going against your father,you are no longer just his daughter,but an opponent.What did you expect?You will go far in business because you have the ruthless streak necessary,but at what personal cost?
2006-09-23 08:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him somewhere neutral, like the park or cafe or something, just tell him that you are not out to run his business into the ground, you can both be successful in your own right, and that you still love him as your father and that you thought he would be happy for you otherwise you wouldn't have had the confidence to go ahead with your business, life is too short to hold a grudge, good luck
2006-09-20 00:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a pretty stupid idea to set up in opposition to him wasn't it? I guess you're operating in the same area - town, city, whatever - and so you're likely to be stealing his customers. What did you expect his reaction to be? I think he's feeling rather p***ed off at you and will be for a long time!!
You're not going to get him back doing that, are you? You need to sit down with him and discuss things in a business-like manner - maybe even to the point of either buying him out or amalgamating your businesses.
2006-09-20 00:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, after all your father done for you, bringing you up and the like, it was a tad bitchy starting a business in competition with your own father!
However, if he choses to act the way he is then that is up to him. It will be his loss and he will regret that later in life I am sure but it will of course hurt you!
Have you ever thought about a business merger?
2006-09-20 00:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by PollyPocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad situation. I don't know but I'd suggest give him time and he'll come round to it, if you fail, he'll probably say 'I told you so!' but he'll ultimately give you his support but if you succeed well, you could always work with each other. In fact eventually your companies could merge happily into a new family business with more expertise, a larger clientele and more services to offer. In the meantime, don't rise to his sulking.
2006-09-20 00:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Uncle Sid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you can, get him involved and ask him for advice,, make him feel like a dad again. or if his company is not doing well than maybe you can give him advice.
A dad always likes answering questions for their daughters because it makes them feel usefull and in control and always right.
And then he will know that you still look upto him as a father despite the battle between your company's.
And dont forget to tell him you love him..
Good luck
2006-09-20 00:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could you not sit down and talk to him about this - is there a reason why you can't work together? Personally though, I'd rather not go into business with a parent/family member, as it would cause no end of problems!
2006-09-20 00:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why not merge your businesses? if your father was smart he would welcome new ideas and want you to prosper....that's just good business not a slam against him. obviously there is a reason you are doing better so he should check into it, also you could use his years of wisdom to help you run your business...sounds like a merger of the two would make a good business even better.
2006-09-20 00:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have a similar problem, best thing to accept is that he's man like you and not your Dad, you'll see it differently then !, he needs to make moeny like you and also because he's older he expects respect, difficult I know. Try to meet up and have a beer (I couldnt as the old man dont like me drinking around him ?????)
tell him what you'd like, you may find , if he's reasonable a joint venture ???, at least YOU tried
2006-09-20 00:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by david g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋