i said to my husband of 3 mths we should start going out with our friends at night once a week,he didnt really want to and we had a argument about it saying he dont want to go out with his mates he loves staying in with me,we calmed down and agreed one night each week with our friends,he went out did not see him till the next afternnon at 5.00,he didnt call i was worried,he said he couldnt get home in time,he missed taxi and stayed at his mates,hes acting very strange has he cheated on me and is it my fault for pushing things.
2006-09-20 00:14:48 · 21 answers · asked by jonas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Perhaps you should have let sleeping dogs lie
2006-09-20 00:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The first thing I would say to you is to ask him. Communcation is the key the any healthy relationship. Without it, it won't work.
If he has cheated on, it's not your fault! He made the choice, he is to blame not you.
It sounds to me like he has little respect for you, if he can't pick a phone and call to tell you where he is. Tell him you want to know where he was and if he stalls just ask him again - 'Where were you, have been with another woman?'.
If you feel he beign dishonest with you, then tell him the consequences if you find out. But you may well get the answer matter of factly, which could show that you are just being insecure.
It's best he knows how you feel though.
2006-09-20 07:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He res whats happened....
You've suggested to your husband that you each spend one night a week with your friends. Its a perfectly good suggestion because it will do you good to spend one night apart a week and you need to spend time with friends even if you are married. However, your husband took this as, you want to spend one night a week away from him and he got upset. he likes staying in with you and obviously felt hurt that you wanted to spend a night with your friends one a week. This is ridiculous and immature attitude. So in order to hurt you back, your husband did what you wanted and went out with his friends but he stayed out all night and day. he did this so you won't want him to go out again and so you'll both spend every night together like before. He's acting like a jealous spoilt child and don't let him stop you seeing your friends.
2006-09-20 07:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop asking him to do things for 2 weeks, and write a diary of his behaviour, if he Carry's on the same for the weeks then you need to sit down and have a chat with him, He could be organising a surprise for you, so give him some time without asking and the answer will come clearer
2006-09-20 07:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by helly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you give a guy the idea that you want something different in your relationship, some read it as saying youre not happy., and you want some freedom. You should be glad your husband is satisfied with your company. I saw loads of married men in the pub where I used to work trying to chat up the ladies.
2006-09-20 07:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by The Way 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's not cheating on you, he's just badly organised and is slightly embarrassed by it. He's having a good time with his guy friends, but doesn't think you'd approve of the fun they have, not because it involves being unfaithful, just because it's the kind of fun that takes a degree of immaturity that guys assume women frown upon. My wife and I came to a similar arrangement, I was driving her nuts, I'm a lot happier, but the things my friends and I get up to I'd be embarrased to do in front of my wife.
And no, it's not your fault if he is. If he is repaying you for his one night of freedom with infidelity, then he's a jerk. Plain and simple, with no blame to be taken on your part. If he tries to blame it on you he's a super-ultron-jerk.
2006-09-20 07:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by tony_copeland 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he has cheated on you but it's your fault for pushing him too far ... Did you want to go out with your friends in case you could find another guy?
Seems this marriage isn't going to work much longer if you accuse him every time he's been out. Did you have separate nights out before you got married? If not, why change now?
2006-09-20 07:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ill say well partly its ur fault,and partly not,cuz as man and wife u shud be able to talk to each other and agree on things togeda,but if he has gone out and nt cme hme till nxt day and hes all weired,then ill say give him d benefit of the doubt,but if u feel strongly dat he has definately cheated on u then u shud cme up straight and ask him,then its up to u to take things from there..................
2006-09-20 07:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by jadex03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just stayed out so that you think he had an affair, then you wont let him out again and he then gets to stay in with you, which is what he wanted in the first place! whats wrong with staying in together any way.
2006-09-20 07:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask one of his mates what happened. and if he did sleep with them. get divorced and youll be able to party when you want. If you cannot trust your husband after 3 months what was the point in getting married
2006-09-20 07:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by alismudge 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sit down and talk to him, and don't blame yourself, tell him how you are feeling, or alternatively forget about it move on and if he doesn't want to go out make it a romantic night in for him, communication is the key to a long and happy marriage, good luck
2006-09-20 07:22:37 · answer #11 · answered by bluebell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋