i watching the tv now and they are talking aboout weather it ok to smack your own child what do you think?

Question

I am in favour of parents being allowed to displine their own children, Beating them is wrong but a smack on the leg or bum i am in favour of being a parent my self. When i was a child if i was seen doing something wrong by an adult in the street they would go to my homae and tell my parents and they would take the approite steps with their punshiment, Now a days you cant do tat cos its mor liklythe parents will end up smaking the adult, times have changed mostley for the better, but in cases like this for the worse.

Answer 1

My discipline policy is to not spank my daughter, but I do have to say, like with any child, there are times when she probably deserves a good spanking. I've just found that time outs and taking away favorite toys are very effective tools for disciplining her, so that's what we choose to do. I know lots of parents who do spank, as long as they aren't crossing the line into abuse it's not up to me to judge how they choose to discipline their own children.

Answer 2

I agree on smacking my kids. They have to learn and time out just dont work sometimes. I have a process I go through. 1. warn them and tell them this behavour is wrong and tell them what they shoudl do instead 2. time out in the corner standing up straight not talking arms down at sides for 1 minute / year old they are.
3. then comes the spank. one or two swats on bum or smak of the hand and problem is usually solved. I know the difference between beating and spanking but some ppl dont see a difference. Maybe if they were actually beat when they were younger they would think differently. Oh and if I get too mad at them (very rarely because I knwo kids are just kids) i walk away or send them to their room. I have not lost control and dont see it happening as i know what steps to take.

Answer 3

Smacking children should be treated as seriously as smacking adults.

Smacking adults does result in in a criminal prosecution because it is a barbaric act, one which is so uncivilised that it must be stopped.

Smacking children is 100 times more severe, because children do not have the same power as adults, therefore, not only is it physical abuse, but it's bullying too and both of these have a long lasting emotional impact on the child's well being.

Smacking children should be made illegal across the world.

Answer 4

My boy is nine and I've only smacked him once, and that was because I was sleep deprived and had too much coffee which makes me snappy; and I regret it. If your child feels very loved then your disapproval is often enough to modify behaviour. The more you smack the less they'll feel loved and the more you'll have to smack. My dad took a belt to me when I was 12 for passing notes in class and getting a detention. I never trusted him again. Smacking doesn't work, it only leads children to believe that violence is a good way of controlling things you don't like.

Answer 5

Discipline and punishment are different. Smacking is punishment, it teaches the child to avoid being caught if possible rather than face the consequences, it teaches them to solve their problems physically, with violence, it teaches them the stronger person gets their own way. Discipline is what is needed. It is a form of education, that teaches a child that their actions have consequences and generally how to behave, and it doesnt need to involve physical violence. People these days dont know how to talk to their children, or with the younger ones discipline them in an effective way without violence. Its sad.
If you smacked a complete stranger who was an adult the same size as you and could defend themselves you could get sent to jail, or you wouldnt dare do it anyway for fear of being hurt. Smack a defenceless person you profess to love and thats ok???
Its the same as swearing at them and complaining when they get a bad mouth.

Answer 6

I agree, I was smacked when I was younger. It hasn't ruined me or made me fearful or turned me into a depressed person. It made me realise that I was doing something wrong and you learned from it.
I think you should be able to smack your child, obviously it cant be anything major but its nothing to do with the soreness of getting smacked it was the shock of your parents doing it - its all about respect.

Answer 7

i am like u i agree with a smack on the behind or a slap on the wrist , nothing more , my girls were smacked very , very rarely , my girls now are 15,12 and 10(tomorrow) and 4 , i feel the 3 older ones can`t be smacked now , they get grounded now , infact they have been grounded more than they have been smacked , and my little 4 yr old is an angel thankfully .. A smack never did me or my brother any harm !

Answer 8

I too believe in that kind of discipline, I dont how my kids will turn out but I remember getting smacked once in a while and only when I needed it, I still had a fantastic relationship with my mom (she is no more) and no I am not kooky or scarred from it, if anything I am a more aware, sensitive and disciplined person.

Answer 9

i think a smacked bottom is fine - these stupid laws that are around are not going to do anything but damage decent people genuinely disciplining their children - for those who are going to abuse their children a no smacking law is not going to stop them.
you daren't say anything to the children let alone the parents these days because the little sods would come round and break your windows - all because of lack of discipline - madness

Answer 10

I smack my children on the hand or bottom if they are really bad. I found with my eldest, I only had to do it a couple of times and then the threat of it worked..
We were never smacked as children as my mum had 'the look' and we all behaved when she threw it at us!