What are your main goals in parenting/education of kids?

Question

Tell me which of the following do you consider to be most important (you can name more than one) and are there any of these that are not among your goals? Tell me by which means and methods do you try to achieve those goals that you consider to be important? Also tell me where you live, if you are American or of other nationality and what is your religion, if you believe in one.

1) obediance to parents
2) faith in God/piety
3) success in school/career
4) happiness/contentment of your child
5) intelligence/good knowledge
6) good manners
7) ability to critical thinking/rationality
8) sense of responsibility
9) tolerance
10) respect for others
11) belief in equality of different races/ men and women/ people of different
believes
12) ability to solve conflicts in peaceful way
13) trust and understanding between parents and children

If there is anything I forgot, tell me.

The sequence by which I listed the things here does not reflect my own opinion.

Answer 1

To be happy and confident in themselves and with life must be top of the list! That requires positive reinforcement parenting!

Answer 2

My wife and I discuss this alot. We want our son to grow up with a love for God, tolerance of other people, happiness, intelligence, and good manners. We read a book called The Blessing. It's a little dated, but it's basically about raising children to be independent adults by the age of 18. It kind of makes you think about where they should be at 10, where they should be 15 and so on. It's Biblically based because ancient Jews used to give their children the Blessing when they were ready to be adults. There has to be discipline in a loving way. I feel today's kids are being raised to believe that their own happiness is more important than other people's. When I was young, the kids weren't treated with the same rights as adults. We didn't always (or often) get our way, because our parents knew what was best and exercised their wisdom on us.