Am a sweet black guy & 30 years old. Since i was a kid i have always felt this strong attraction towards white girls & it all started in grade school which was basically an all white school. I have been involved with a few black girls in the past but it never lasts but whenever i meet a nice white girl i feel this strong attraction towards her. Its my dream to get married to one if i ever come across one that will love me too.
Do you think am normal?
Will be so grateful for your answers
P.s: Please don't make any racist remarks ... Thank you.
2006-09-19 23:04:46 · 20 answers · asked by kabira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with having a preference in who you choose to date.We all have a certain something that we find attractive.For some it's color of hair or eyes for you it's color of skin.It doesn't matter who it is you choose as long as your happy.
You are perfectly normal. Good luck in your search for love.
2006-09-19 23:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this. I taught in an urban high school and met many young people who seemed to gravitate toward people of other races for dating. Consider these points.... For one thing, there may be a biological instinct toward pursuing genetic variety. I am not a science teacher, but I know that mixing the gene pool up is very much to the advantage of a species from the standpoint of genetics and evolution. Who's to say that this isn't programmed into some of us in the form of trans-racial sexual response. This is the same reason a conquering tribe often goes after the women of the defeated tribe - the genes of both tribes are preserved. So one factor may be biology. Second point -- cultural fatigue. If you are raised in one subsection of a diverse society, it may be very natural to start getting a "stale" feeling about your own group and experience a more "fresh" feeling about another group. You may already know how women of your own community behave, and it seems predictable and unenticing. The women of another group may have some mystery or challenge to them that you are attracted to. There is nothing particularly wrong with this. Third possibility - internalized racism. If the larger society devalues your group and you subconsciously buy into it, you may be rejecting the women of your community as a reflection of your own internal hang ups about your race. That one is the most worrisome, of course, if it rings true. But if that is happening on a subconscious level, can you really change it by pushing yourself to date women you're not attracted to? I think perhaps not. Freud said that we all have complexes, and we just have to learn to live with them. Even if your attraction to white women is rooted in some insecurity, your best bet may be to just admit it and keep it in mind. I wonder if you have some residual notion that you might still have a chance to meet a wonderful woman of your own race, and how nice that could possibly turn out to be. If you do, you owe it to yourself to explore that possibility. Black women come in all kinds of varieties... the qualities that you associate with the white women you are attracted to may show up in a beautiful black woman and knock your socks off... wouldn't that be awesome? Whichever way it goes for you, I get the impression that you are an intelligent, sensitive man, and you will surely find a good mate. Best wishes!
2006-09-20 06:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by uncle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not weird ur a man an at the end of the day thats what u jst r. so i love whites who cares follow ur heart and ur dreams. am a white chick an there a few black men that r cute but hey everyone is different. hope u find dat gal ur lookin 4
2006-09-20 06:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing is you meet a nice lady and you guys click and you like her because she's cool. But if your main attraction is the fact that she is caucasian, then you're being unfair to yourself and the young lady. Open your mind to see qualities,integrity, and interests;not just the color of her skin. You will find that you have a variety of women to select from and that you're not so limited. Being attracted to one type of person is ok, but dude, you sound really shallow and close minded. Try to think of it from a different perspective and you'll find that you end up with an attractive,interesting and well rounded young lady. Best wishes...
2006-09-20 06:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
listen i am a black girl, and i am sure you have got a lot of negative attention frm us blk women but hey its your choice your preference i have no prob. with black men being with white women i love white girls! lol, but hey its ur choice and yes you are totally normal, i wish eveyrone whould marry and have children with a perosn of a different race just b/c thn everyone woudl b mixed and we would have no problems, but of ocurse your are normal totally normal and its awesome tht u are not just attracted to black females! u seem like a very nice and iteresting person and i wish you luck with ur reltionship... and the reason yuo feel the connection is just becuase thts ur taste and thts whut YOU like and thts all tht matters, sorry if there a lot of type-0 i am trying to hurry up....
2006-09-21 19:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might as well ask why some people are only attracted to people of their own race.
Or why some guys only dig other guys.
Or why some guys are hopelessly drawn to women with big... feet.
It's called PREFERENCE. And it's totally normal.
Go after what makes you happy, and ignore the haters.
2006-09-20 06:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you are normal human being.The personal interest in choosing spouse is also your own choice,in nature not thinking about race or skin color,you have the job you earn money to support your family,no one accuse you of the wrongdoings.
2006-09-20 06:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Chuong Seng Ly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r absolutely normal
dont worry itz a personal choice to like white or black girls juss chill and continue ur life the same way u were living
2006-09-20 06:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by might 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's no difference bwteen black people and white people , what a sad world!! if anyone hates you , remeber you don't hate your self and they do the thinking not you, if the white girl want you then it's none of thier business
2006-09-20 06:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by êü®ò 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have something in common then, I'm only attracted to white girls too!
2006-09-20 06:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋